This just drives me bonkers!
There is so much he can do to improve his health, from T levels to weight loss thereby controlling blood pressure.
The premature ejaculation is absolutely a solvable problem as well.
He is fortunate to have your love.
I'm not trying to be rude or insulting but I'm genuinely curious.
Have you ever been tempted to stray? I have quite a few stories about this issue. Almost worth starting a thread over but people might be shy to talk about it here.
Yes, I know all of that.
My husband does too. He won't do anything that bores him (exercise); and he won't eat low calorie diets, or anything like that. He doesn't really eat much. His metabolism must be sunk at this point.
I believe in weight loss and muscle building to increase T naturally. I wouldn't want my H to take medical testosterone.
If he wanted to, it's his body. But there is no way on the earth, that he is going to a doctor and saying, "I have almost no sex drive, I fall asleep all the time, I wake up tired; should I go on testosterone?" It's admitting to the sex part that would bother him. He will not admit to having issues to some stranger; even if that stranger is a doctor.
His low levels were discovered "accidentally" when he got blood work done about two years ago. The doctor offered no solutions, or even talked about it with him. They left a message on his voicemail, telling him he had high cholesterol and low testosterone.
I'm not sure that PE is solvable.
He is fortunate to have my sexual fidelity; I suppose. But I couldn't get turned on cheating. And I'd never divorce him because he's lost his sex drive. Stuff happens.
I always think he could have done better than me anyway. But that is a long story. Basically, I've been very happy to be with him. And especially at the beginning, I was blown away that he asked me out.
I sometimes need to have sex so bad that I feel pangs all over my body, and I get teary-eyed. Sex together is getting increasingly non-productive. The best answer I can come up with is to let it go. All things must pass.
I love my husband, warts and all. There isn't too much of sacrifice in it really. I get a lot from my marriage, on non-sexual levels.
One weird "good" thing about it, is that it keeps things real. It is a reminder that we are getting older and that we are going to die one day. So, enjoy every bit of life that you can. Live in the now and savor every positive thing, "time's a wastin' "