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Old 07-30-2012, 09:17 PM   #1 (permalink)
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I will make this as simple as possible... I have been in a relationship for about 5 years the guy is not even close to the type I use to date, he is a nerd but I love his qualities I am not really physically attracted to him and he is not very experienced in the sack and gets all nervous and then loses it... So I have been having vivid dreams about the hot guys I use to hook up with and how good the sex was... I want to cheat but I swore I would never be that way... is sex that important? I have talked to him about the amount of sex and quality of sex we have and it seemed to have made it worse. Before him the sex I would have was a 10 hot and passionate... the sex with him is a 2 at best I have to do all the work... this is the only thing wrong in the relationship everything else is perfect. I am a fairly attractive female so I am use to guys being all over me, and I miss that. my vibrator is not doing the trick any more.... if i cheat it will fix the need and if he never knows what will it hurt? help am I a horrible person? I love him but the sex wont get get better...
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relationship? so you aren't married.
leave him. do him a favor.
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Old 07-30-2012, 09:21 PM   #3 (permalink)
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If you are a fairly attractive hot girl, why did you settle for him?
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Old 07-30-2012, 09:22 PM   #4 (permalink)
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Leave him. Don't cheat on the poor guy.


I feel bad for him. Have enough respect for him to break up with him before hooking up with someone else.
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Old 07-30-2012, 09:22 PM   #5 (permalink)
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Instead of cheating ask for another male to join you? That way it'll be with his permission and you'll enjoy the hawt sex!!
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Well, cheating is a horrible thing to do to someone.
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Old 07-30-2012, 09:23 PM   #7 (permalink)
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lol what a joke

what i said early i still stand by


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Old 07-30-2012, 09:25 PM   #8 (permalink)
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Leave him. Don't cheat on the poor guy.


I feel bad for him. Have enough respect for him to break up with him before hooking up with someone else.
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we are doomed

Humans will destroy themselves before they can ever reach a type 2 civilization. I would not be surprised if we kill ourselves before type 1!
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If you cheat he will find out sooner or later.

Yes sex is extremely important part of a relationship. Look at where your mind is going because you are not really attracted to him.

Leave him and go find a man who you have passion with.

And by doing this you release him to find someone who can love him the way he deserved to be loved.
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Omg I agree gold. OP either make an effort to teach him or just leave him. Cheating is highly disrespectful and its a form of betrayal. Things like that will always come back to bite you in the arse wether its the next day or years later.
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I will make this as simple as possible... I have been in a relationship for about 5 years the guy is not even close to the type I use to date, he is a nerd but I love his qualities I am not really physically attracted to him and he is not very experienced in the sack and gets all nervous and then loses it... So I have been having vivid dreams about the hot guys I use to hook up with and how good the sex was... I want to cheat but I swore I would never be that way... is sex that important? I have talked to him about the amount of sex and quality of sex we have and it seemed to have made it worse. Before him the sex I would have was a 10 hot and passionate... the sex with him is a 2 at best I have to do all the work... this is the only thing wrong in the relationship everything else is perfect. I am a fairly attractive female so I am use to guys being all over me, and I miss that. my vibrator is not doing the trick any more.... if i cheat it will fix the need and if he never knows what will it hurt? help am I a horrible person? I love him but the sex wont get get better...
You don't really love him and anytime someone suggests doing something like this it usually means they have a real self esteem issue. Let this guy go and go find someone who you will not cheat on.

You will both be the better for it.
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you have mentally checked out of the relationship.
Ele gave great advice just now.

Take it!
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Old 07-30-2012, 09:34 PM   #14 (permalink)
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This is all about money.
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This is all about money.
Sadly... most likely.
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