wilding

OK, so I have been with my husband for almost 2 years, we just got married 2 months ago. Our relationship has always been a lil rocky. He is drinker and he works a lot. He says he doesn't have time to spend with me, and every time I try to talk to him he gets upset and we argue. He can go with his brother or friends whenever they ask, and has time to play on the computer, just not time for me. I feel like he has no respect for me at all and that I am on the bottom of his priority list. When he gets mad he gets really mad and he doesn't calm down very easily. He can is verbally abusive, and is proud to be an the way he is.He gets mad at me when he falls asleep during the day and I don't wake him up before bed, even though I try to. He's really mean when you wake him up. I just feel used and talking doesn't help. Any advise would be great. Thanks

C123

So why did you marry him? I assume he was this way prior to your marriage two months ago. Given the fact that he is proud to be the way he is, I have no advice for you other than to get out now while you can. Leave before your finances get too intermingled and you start adding children into the mix because if he's abusive towards you, he'll be abusive towards them. If that happens, it's your fault because you had the chance to leave.

We all make mistakes. It looks like you've made one but luckily you can fix it. If you stay in this marriage he will walk all over you for the rest of your life or until you decide to leave 10 years from now, but by that time, leaving will be MUCH harder.

Sorry if this isn't what you wanted to hear, but you have the power to fix this. Leave now. No one deserves this kind of treatment. If you don't leave, whatever happens going forward is on you.

Best of luck.

C123

Oh, and I'm a male if that makes any difference.

MaritimeGuy

He's not going to change unless he wants to change. From what you've told us it doesn't appear he has any intention of doing so. Sorry to say but it seems to me your choices are to accept it...or not.