shivamirage

I have found some people who say their husbands or wives are the only beautiful or handsome people for them.They feel that because they are madly in love.I wonder if there are some other people out there who thinks the same.

EynaraWolf

I find attractive men attractive, but beautiful? My husband is the only truly beautiful man to me. Even though he's not as psychically fit as he once was. He's gotten some freaky scars in places over the years--including one in the middle of his forehead. His hair is graying. But those are not the things that make him a beautiful person to me. Its the way he looks at me. It's the way he holds me when I cry. It's the way he's there for me when I need him. Its the way he smiles when I can actually get him to blush about something naughty. Its the way he loves our daughters. Its the way he loves me. His face is the one I want to see when I go to bed at night and the one I want to see when I wake up in the morning.

There are many attractive people in this world, but there is only one person who lets me be close enough to him to see the beauty within.

alton

Me and the wife always call other men/women pretty/handsome or whatever. If my wife told me i'm the only guy she thinks is handsome I'd think 'thats nice of you to say, but clearly not true!'

On the other hand I don't really find other women attractive, get turned on or get blown away by someones beauty... only the wife can do that!

costa200

No, not possible, IMO. The things that make one man or woman attractive are not exclusive to that person. You can choose to dedicate yourself completely to one person, but there will always be other good looking people, even if they really don't matter because you're in love.

Caribbean Man

Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder.
Love is in the presence of the love maker.

A person's perception is often their own reality, so that in this life , anything is possible.
I love my wife,and I think she is beautiful....
But I also see beautiful women of every race and description ,walking the streets,
EVERYDAY!

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Mavash.

For me it's the most wonderful feeling ever. I'm aware intellectually that my husband is middle aged and yet I can't see it. I love him so much that I see nothing but beauty. Beauty in the way he looks, the way he loves, the way he is devoted to me, etc.

There may be scores of more attractive men out there but for me there is nothing that could ever compete with the one I have at home.

curlysue321

I notice other attractive people as being attractive, but I don't adore them the way that I do my husband. To me he is the most handsome man ever and I'd rather see his face than to look at Brad Pitt. I acknowlegde that Brad Pitt is attractive, but looking at him doesn't bring me joy like looking at my husband does.

SimplyAmorous

Oh my , all of these replies nail what I want to say as well.... what can I add...

Let me just say, I ENJOY looking at attractive people -- to say otherwise is LYING through my teeth and I know it, and my husband knows it too.... I notice a physically attractive Good looking man.... not that my tastes are all that normal... I love the Lanky long haired rock star look the best...Give me a young Axle Rose or Kurt Cobain -- Would I want to marry that type - HELL NO!!

....But as these replies have so beautifully expressed ......

This is fleeting...these are just seconds of "a tickle thrill"... this is not butterflys welling up inside our soul for the one who has BEEN there.... who we delight in, who delights in us....how their love makes us FEEL inside with what we share....the treasured memories, the laughter, the yrs of faithfulness & joy, who makes us feel ALIVE, who by being in our lives, we have become better people ....who we admire, adore for all they ARE before us... who has wiped our tears in sorrow and shared our highest highs... basically touching our hearts & souls....

When I look at my husband nearing 50 oh so soon (I hate getting older )...I can still see that gorgeous young man I married on our Wedding day.... it is like the yrs have not even passed...what gives ME this ability... is truly that "beauty" within....that has been spoken of in this thread. There is NO MAN who could light a candle to him.


This speaks it ! This is

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Nigel

People who say that are not being truthful to themselves. I think most people say it to try and convince themselves it's true and to try and portray their relationship as picture perfect to others.

SimplyAmorous

I have often wondered this myself... as I don't understand why people do this...or deny... but maybe they really FEEL that way....who am I to say, I am not within their brains or hearts. Though it is very common for the majority of humans to use "white lies" to shade the truth a little -to spare others from being hurt....or like you say, to cover up some flaws.

Me, I am admittably very visual, always have been... I just don't see the big deal at all - that men & women can still be "attracted" to the opposite sex....and think "mmmmm" to themselves in a moment ... even if you are wearing a RING.

This by no means = you are going to fall into an affair, or even talk to that person -it is just a "look". So what.... this is just "human" indicating your hormones are pumping as they ought!

I do believe in near fairytalish marraiges - where the partners are so very close, emotionally wrapped up in each other, Romance kept alive through the yrs & ticking -that life is a whirlwind of JOY....

We feel this way personally.

But still... we find others physically attractive. It's no sin.

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