08-05-2012, 02:05 PM
Join Date: Dec 2008
Ok. Let me be honest. I drink daily. I never drink until I get home. Lately, I've been having at least 3 drinks a night. Glasses of wine or beer. If we don't have alcohol in the house I will go to the store to make sure we have some. I drink when we are out to eat, but I do most of my drinking at home. I went to one glass of wine last night instead of my typical 3 and I feel good. I was proud of myself. But, I'm wondering .. To an outsider, does it sound like I have a drinking problem? Or am I just like most soccer moms?
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Originally Posted by KathyBatesel
Why do you think you'd have looked like an idiot for telling your company you have to move house? It's one of the actual valid reasons to call in!
But that's not your question, I know...
It sounds to me like you may have some codependency issues that get in the way of finding your happiness. The "hints" I'm seeing are that you are concerned about how others might perceive you, and that your husband's drinking and decision to stop counseling have dictated what you're doing on those same things. Another hint is that your husband seems to take for granted that you'll provide solutions when he needs them.
Without knowing more, I can't say whether you'd benefit most from learning to set boundaries or actively working a 12-step program like Al-Anon, but because Al-Anon is such a great program overall, and because it's free and can be found pretty much anywhere, I'd invite you to check it out.