Re: Am I being controlled??
as that good ol boy doc phil sez, the trouble with a child/parent dynamic is the child eventually rebels and leaves.
what i always wonder, when i read posts such as yours, is why one falls in love with such a person in the first place. i really don't mean to imply your, or anyones, hubby is not lovable, but didn't any red flags fly when you first noticed this behaviour?
actually,forget i asked. i was married for many years to someone i really didn't know. and that's how it happens, i guess. as kurt vonnegut wrote, 'and so it goes'.
if you don't mind me saying, you have a tough job ahead of you if you wish for your marriage to last because you need to do as you see fit as an adult and walk away from him when he becomes agitated by your behaviour as you would a child throwing a temper tantrum. and if past experience is a predictor of future behaviour, your husband will become more agitated before he starts to realze his tantrums no longer achieve his desired goal, that is, to control you.