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Besides the other sexual issues in my life... I do miss the kissing. He used to kiss so sweet, soft and even my neck used to get a good lip smacking. Lately if and when we had sex he's forceful and it's unattractive.
My desires of having sex are pretty much gone, but as I sat yesterday thinking I miss the kissing. I like nice soft kisses, sweet smiles afterward. I liked biting his lower lip just a bit and then a nice kiss to let him know it was all in fun. I didn't mind the tongue hockey but it wasn't my thing, but the neck oh baby I loved the light sucks on the neck all this to get it going (sex ).
Now it's a quick kiss out the door with no feeling no compassion.
Does anyone understand what I mean, lips nice and soft and so.........yummie! Gosh this topic could also drive me crazy...LOL
What you are saying in this thread conflicts with what you were saying in a previous thread: What is wrong with me!!!!
In that thread you say you are desperate for sex. In this thread you say you are done with sex, but you still want kissing.
OK, so it's obvious it's because you are fed up with waiting for him to initiate. The problems in your relationship clearly go beyond sex, so it would probably be best to try to fix the more basic problems first - like do you actually like each other?
However, there is an element of pride here. You are fed up of initiating because you want him to chase you. And I agree that would be nice. Everyone who is not being pursued for sex wants to be pursued. However, women (and sometimes men) who are pursued more often than they care for it, don't want sex at all.
It's always a balance. That's life.
Personally, I think you are missing some huge red flags. You bemoan the lack of intimacy, but ignore the fact that the relationship is seriously broken.
If it were me, I would fix it or get out. As I have said before, I don't think it is you. He is probably emotionally dysfunctional in some way.
It was a general comment that I do miss kissing, the feeling the way he did it before. I realize the two are intertwined but it was a comment about kissing only!
my relationship is in trouble, but I have to have something to smile about to think what a nice kiss is like. I can't keep thinking about sex and missing it, I'll become seriously depressed, cry be totally unraveled until it can either be fixed, I have an affair to curb my desires or tell my marriage good-bye. Kissing is a innocent topic, we all do it married or not, so telling me about how you like to be kissed is innocent to me right now.
I am replused by the thought of kissing with my husbands constant allergy and sinus problems. He is constantly sneezing, big sprays of snot all over everything. It never stops and grosses me out.
I asked him to go to the doctor, but he can't find time... so
maybe to get over any romantic notions about kissing you need someone like my husband.
Yes we can Long for and Miss Kissing.. I sit sometimes & think about my hubbys lips.. when we were dating they were the 1st thing I went for everytime I saw him.. and I have him home everynite & Miss them terribly so weird for we to do the quick tap on lips now ..nothing like the previous dating
anyway.... Kissing is the Best Definetly Nice ..but it seems to be one of the first things to exit along with the compliments afer marriage/Im venting today!
my relationship is in trouble, but I have to have something to smile about to think what a nice kiss is like. I can't keep thinking about sex and missing it, I'll become seriously depressed, cry be totally unraveled until it can either be fixed, I have an affair to curb my desires or tell my marriage good-bye. Kissing is a innocent topic, we all do it married or not, so telling me about how you like to be kissed is innocent to me right now.
I'm merely pointing out that you are attempting to settle for mediocrity rather than sorting your marriage out. In any case the small things like lack of kissing is due to the bigger problems. Why not tackle them head-on?
Preso, my husband has allergies to, he sneezes constantly,has a runny nose, I think he's allergic to me. He was never like this before, and his kiss's were so wonderful and they made me tingle... now it's just a peck here and there.
As far as other comments, this is just a fun topic i know what my marriage is like I live it daily, I'm pushed aside when it comes to sex, my husband knows i could have him every day, he chooses not to, or i have to go after it initiate it work at and he'll give in. Remembering how he kissed me is a good thing, it's like remmembering how we used to wrinkle the sheets every day few years ago. If I ever leave my marriage I'm going to take some dam good memories with, his kisses, the way we had serious dirty sex, and the way we could make love so passionately, the way quickies were even a turn on. I wont' leave with bad memmories. My first husband said he couldn't keep up with me sexual I was too horney all the time, when we split due to other reasons I resented him not trying harder to please me, I will not leave this marriage with the same feeling.
I have to come to the conclusion I am a horney 40+ woman and i'm not going to change, so tell me your kissing stories if you will, I would love to hear them.
My wife used to kiss me with passion.. But now every time I try to kiss her she turns her cheek and thats all I get. So I've pretty much gave up on it and come to the conclusion that she just doesnt want to kiss me anymore.
Does anyone understand what I mean, lips nice and soft and so.........yummie! Gosh this topic could also drive me crazy...LOL
I know what you mean - DH's lips are perfect - sweet, soft & nearly edible! They're always super soft, even in the dead of winter when it's 15 below 0... his kisses are more than perfect... never sloppy or gross, he doesn't try to cover 1/2 of my face with them (I know someone knows what I mean!) Heck, just a few weeks ago, kissing was our entire foreplay... 45 minutes into lip smacking there wasn't anything else we needed!
Kissing is this silly or ???? 
Re: Kissing is this silly or ???? 
