05-01-2009, 12:50 PM
Join Date: Apr 2009
| | Re: Filed for divorce, now what?
You'll probably have to give a little more detail about the money issue to get some good responses. Without it we dont know if the issue is stress from debt, one person repeatedly blowing the budget, agreeing on a budget, a control issue, fraud etc. Generally on the divorce issue, some people will use it as a threat in an effort to get the other persons attention or to communicate how seriously they feel about the issue without really intending to go through with it. There is an amount of empowerment in saying that you're ready to end things if this doesnt get fixed even if you don't really mean it. Some will also begin using the term because they are working into a comfort level with the idea of following through on it. The threat becomes a step toward becoming comfortable with doing it. As for the counseling idea, how about going together? He might be more open to it and you'll probably still do individual counseling with the same person.