Hi, all. I haven't posted on here in a long time...very very busy IRL. I've recently learned of something very bizarre, & I have no idea how to handle it.
A woman confided a huge secret to me (not entirely sure why). She was devastated after a guy she was getting serious w/suddenly backed off. He wasn't calling her, & she was so desperate to talk to him that she told him she was pregnant, even though she knew she wasn't. He, o/c, believed her & has been trying to do right by her.
In maintaining the charade, she has had sex w/him using no birth control whatsoever. He thinks birth control is obviously not needed @ this point.
This lady has even been looking for ultrasound images online that she plans to pass off to him as her own b/c she knows that he's going to want to see the pictures.
I've never heard of anyone doing something like this. Thoughts please.
Wow. I know a girl who told everyone she had some sort of cancer in her uterus and as a result, cannot get pregnant. So, her boyfriend didn't use protection, since she said he didn't need to. She now has 3 kids.
I think the answer offered by UpToDate, an online reference source for doctors and patients, might help to clarify the confusion:
"Miscarriage in early pregnancy is common. Studies show that about 10% to 20% of women who know they are pregnant have a miscarriage some time before 20 weeks of pregnancy; 80% of these occur in the first 12 weeks. But the actual rate of miscarriage is even higher since many women have very early miscarriages without ever realizing that they are pregnant. One study that followed women's hormone levels every day to detect very early pregnancy found a total miscarriage rate of 31%."
When extremist left wingers claim God is the greatest abortion doctor of all time, this is what they are talking about. This is why people "try" to get pregnant. Even if the fertilized egg manages to start growing, there's a very high chance that it will die.
And blow her secret. Dude.
I initially read this wrong and it sounded completely different in my head:
and blow her secret dude
This isn't something that should be kept a secret. This 'woman' is doing something that is life altering to this poor guy and, IMO, he needs to know what sort of trickster he's dealing with before it's too late.
I don't know him. I know the lady from a group therapy type situation. I shared how I'm dealing w/a surprise pregnancy myself...I'll need another thread for that one. Afterward, the lady spoke to me on the side. She spoke in a lot of hypotheticals, but it was easy to get what she was saying.
I'm 8 weeks pregnant by the first (& only) guy I've had sex w/since my H left 15 months ago. Oh, & an early ultrasound shows it's twins...TWINS. Right now I'm scared s***less, & I feel like this lady was milking me for pregnancy info to help her manipulate this guy.