08-15-2012, 03:02 PM
Join Date: Apr 2012
| | Re: 2nd priority?!
This sounds like part of a much larger problem. Your husband had a PA, but didn't see it as a problem enough to go to counseling. Now he's openly ogling another woman in front of you, and again, he doesn't have respect to know that's beyond a boundary.
I disagree about blaming him. He is indeed, a grown adult, and can make a choice about what and what not to do. People do indeed, have an ability to say "No." While yes, the OW here shares some blame, this is just another instance in which the OPs husband is showing a clear lack of respect.
Honestly, I'd tell him straight out. Given that you've cheated on me, and didn't think it was serious, you getting overly friendly, with your friend's fiancee and/her chest is really bothering me. Further, it bothers me that my feeling and concerns are constantly dismissed by you.
I agree, considering going back to individual counseling, or working on improving yourself.