newhusbandnj

Thanks in advance for reading this, feels good just to unload in an anonymous forum like this. I had a great girlfriend that I was crazy about, and I was thrilled when I was finally in a better financial position and was able to marry her. But less than a week after I popped the question, she became this different person - she got more critical of me , more prone to nurse grudges (she had a fight with my family one night, and acted like she had PTSD for the next 7 months). I won't lie, I thought about calling it off, but she always did just enough right to give me hope that things would change. We got married 4 months ago, and - while there have been great times, there have been so many fights. I feel overwhelmed by how many things I don't do up to her standards (cleaning, for example - my old place was an absolute pig sty, I'm messy by nature, our house, though, I try to keep so neat, but she will pitch a fit if some old receipts are left on top of my dresser). When we talk, she accuses me of saying its always her, but the thing is - it is. There's never a time when I have come home in a bad mood, never a time when she's greeted me cheerfully and been met with a short "we need to talk." I am an easygoing guy married to a woman with a serious chip on her shoulder.

I can't believe I'm just a few months into this and feeling trapped already. Please, someone, tell me something I can do, because I cannot go on living like this.

Enginerd

Annulment if you can. You have an abuser on your hands. Just because she's a women doesn't mean she gets a pass.

rj700

Tell her exactly that - . But you have to mean it. You saw warning signs before you married. You either stand up now or glue the welcome mat to your back.

MrsA

You need to talk to her and try to resolve it if that's what you want. All I will say is the longer you leave it and live like that, the more you will resent it. As hard as it is to end it now, it will be harder the longer you leave it.
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Uptown

NewJersey, welcome to the TAM forum. Your description of your new wife's behavior bears some resemblances to that of the two women that Maybe and I married. I suggest you read about them in Maybe's thread and see if there are very many similarities. The description starts at My list of hell!. If that description rings a bell, I would be glad to discuss it with you. Take care, NewJersey.