okay, brief history. I met my wife 10 years ago, I was still married to my ex at the time but I fell madly in love with current wife. Left ex to be with current wife but it was a rocky start from the outset. I felt she was controlling and nagging, I had anger issues. We got married 7 1/2 years ago, after about a year and a half she found I had been looking at internet pornography and accused me of cheating on her with those women I had looked at online. She sort of forgave me, but always brought it up when we fought and said if I ever did anything else to betray her trust then it is OVER! Fast forward 6 years, our communication was usually fighting (my fault most of the time) and our intimacy was next to nothing. I started talking to a woman from work about my marriage issues (HUUUGE mistake) and she told me about her marriage problems. There was no physical attraction to this person, but the conversations became increasingly sexual in nature. I never physically touched this person at all. I am new to this, so I guess this would be called an emotional affair? This went on for about 4 months until my wife found the emails about a month ago and lost her mind. She is threatening divorce, we're still living in the same house but I'm in a different room. She also found out I had been randomly chatting online with anyone and everyone when I was on business trips. I never really got help before. I tried telling her that I just needed someone to talk to, I felt lonely because we fought all the time. She doesn't buy it, she thinks I'm just a sick pervert and not a good man at all. I keep trying to tell her that I do truly love her, because I left everything I knew, family and friends back where I grew up with to be with her because she insisted on living in her home town. I even have a son from my previous marriage that I left behind as well to be with my wife. It is against our religion to drink alcohol as well, but whenever we would fight I would leave the house and go get a drink somewhere because I felt alone, away from my family/friends missing my son, etc. I am serious about getting help and changing to be a better man, I am now going to counseling and addiction (sex/pornography/etc.) support group sessions four times a week and I am willing anything else if it would help her heal. I'd even move out of the house, sign divorce papers (then try to win her back and re-marry), anything to help take away this pain that I've caused. At this point she is talking to an old boyfriend, because he went through something similar, he got divorced and she is seeking advice. That makes me crazy because I fear she could be developing feelings for him, even though she swears she could never be with this guy. She said she was the one who broke it off with him and she could never have feelings for him. I can't really say anything about her talking to him either because of what I've done. What else can I be doing to help my wife heal, help her trust me again and salvage my marriage??