I'll try to be as concise and understandable as possible, but I have to provide back story for context.
The trait that will shine through in this story is my husband way of behaving that he still is a teenager. And that I am sick of saying "No" when I shouldn't have have to mention the word.
My husband and I have a very stress filled job our work is essentially our home, our home is our workplace. To make matter even significantly worse, a new company has purchased the property, we we got forced into taking a huge pay cut, with the same amount of the expenses going out. We are trying to readjust and budget the household.
Now to my point, my husband works hard, so very very hard the brunt of the crap falls upon him. However periodically through the year (almost of entire 12 year relationship) this sense of entitlement where he can just screw off, do what he likes, spend our last god damn dollar comes from the blue. Well not the blue usually its his birthday or a weekend we may have off.
But now since his birthday it is happened twice, out all night and spending our money, as yesterday he worked with friends to make extra money, then came home after being late, then within 20 mins of being in the house left for a friends house. He came home at 6 am...............................
So to the lesson part, I don't know if these recent episodes are about me doing the one thing that pumps me up for work in the morning, I do it habitually, its the only outlet I have, I also will do it after dinner, however our kids are fed he is fed, our house in reasonable condition, and I need something...something to unwind.
When he came home I told point blank to avoid getting upset and angry that I didn't want to know what he did, with who, or where and just to go to bed and leave me alone. Yelling, crying, arguing hasn't gotten me anywhere in 12 yrs, nor has reminding him that he is not single, he has children, nevermind me, and I have no real social life, no time and don't blame him for it....
I think this may just be the pattern of my life, but I'm still bitter
The trait that will shine through in this story is my husband way of behaving that he still is a teenager. And that I am sick of saying "No" when I shouldn't have have to mention the word.
My husband and I have a very stress filled job our work is essentially our home, our home is our workplace. To make matter even significantly worse, a new company has purchased the property, we we got forced into taking a huge pay cut, with the same amount of the expenses going out. We are trying to readjust and budget the household.
Now to my point, my husband works hard, so very very hard the brunt of the crap falls upon him. However periodically through the year (almost of entire 12 year relationship) this sense of entitlement where he can just screw off, do what he likes, spend our last god damn dollar comes from the blue. Well not the blue usually its his birthday or a weekend we may have off.
But now since his birthday it is happened twice, out all night and spending our money, as yesterday he worked with friends to make extra money, then came home after being late, then within 20 mins of being in the house left for a friends house. He came home at 6 am...............................
So to the lesson part, I don't know if these recent episodes are about me doing the one thing that pumps me up for work in the morning, I do it habitually, its the only outlet I have, I also will do it after dinner, however our kids are fed he is fed, our house in reasonable condition, and I need something...something to unwind.
When he came home I told point blank to avoid getting upset and angry that I didn't want to know what he did, with who, or where and just to go to bed and leave me alone. Yelling, crying, arguing hasn't gotten me anywhere in 12 yrs, nor has reminding him that he is not single, he has children, nevermind me, and I have no real social life, no time and don't blame him for it....
I think this may just be the pattern of my life, but I'm still bitter