Join Date: Jan 2016
Location: Southern USA, but longtime NYC boy prior to our move.
Re: Personality change after vasectomy
I doubt that memory loss is due to his Vasectomy. I am sterile and it does not affect me in any way. Some men equate being manly with the ability to procreate. I have seen this in guys who have lots of kids with different women to feel like they are a man, even though they cannot support them. I had one guy work for me and he had 7 kids by seven women. In his social circle, impregnating girls, having powerful sperm, was a sign of manhood. You still see this happening among the poor class because for some it is the only achievement they can accomplish.
There may be something going on with your husband being affected by knowing he cannot have impregnate anyone. A loss of manhood. However, the problem may have been brewing and the agreement to a Vasectomy be just be part of a larger problem. Have him talk to his doctor. I held a lot of stuff in and finally spoke to my doctor and I was suffering from depression. I thought depression was like you see on TV but it manifests itself in many ways can cause memory problems, anger, sadness, lack of drive, libido and more. Since being treated I am feeling so much better. The Vasectomy was probably the last nail in the coffin that was already being built. Convince him to speak to a professional. It changed my life.
Many prefer to drown in a pool of their own morality rather than seek the safety of a different morality when the choice is monogamy or your marriage.