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post #31 of 36 (permalink) Old 03-25-2017, 12:56 PM
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Re: Personality change after vasectomy

I doubt that memory loss is due to his Vasectomy. I am sterile and it does not affect me in any way. Some men equate being manly with the ability to procreate. I have seen this in guys who have lots of kids with different women to feel like they are a man, even though they cannot support them. I had one guy work for me and he had 7 kids by seven women. In his social circle, impregnating girls, having powerful sperm, was a sign of manhood. You still see this happening among the poor class because for some it is the only achievement they can accomplish.

There may be something going on with your husband being affected by knowing he cannot have impregnate anyone. A loss of manhood. However, the problem may have been brewing and the agreement to a Vasectomy be just be part of a larger problem. Have him talk to his doctor. I held a lot of stuff in and finally spoke to my doctor and I was suffering from depression. I thought depression was like you see on TV but it manifests itself in many ways can cause memory problems, anger, sadness, lack of drive, libido and more. Since being treated I am feeling so much better. The Vasectomy was probably the last nail in the coffin that was already being built. Convince him to speak to a professional. It changed my life.

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A properly done vasectomy will not affect memory.

That much being said, given the amount of medical incompetence out there, don't be surprised if they cut into the wrong head.

Now THAT can cause all sorts of neurological issues.
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post #33 of 36 (permalink) Old 04-11-2017, 06:06 PM
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My husband had a vasectomy after our 3rd child and that was 13 years ago. Needless to say all sex has stopped. It has been almost 5 years since we had sex and before that it was 4 times with me being the instigator. I have been devastated by it as I am very willing and able and love sex. We have talked about it and gone to therapy and he still doesn't know why it is this way. He says he loves me and is still interested in me and other than that everything is great in our relationship! I know he had said at the time that he felt like he wasn't a man. No more bullets in the gun and I believe he felt that defined him. He says it doesn't work. If I had known this was going to be the result I would have gotten a hysterectomy. But, all 3 kids were born naturally so we didn't see why I should go through that long endearing pain when he can have it done and be good in a couple of days. He still masturbates though but not often. It is a mental thing for sure but now that he is in his early 50's it could also be age related at this point but I wouldn't know how to tell. We have been married 17 years and together 22 years. Even when I get hit on it doesn't help. I don't get it either.

Maybe some points I made may help. I know my husband had a real hard time talking about until we did see a therapist. Easier to talk about it now but still no result. I am in a "I don't know what to do" too.

If you two could get some therapy and get him to open up and talk, it may help with time. Good luck! Let us know if anything helps or changes.
Seems straight forward to me. Have him get his testosterone checked. Research shows that "most" guys don't experience a change in hormones from vasectomy but there's some that do. Pre vas my testosterone was 900. I was checked 4 months after the procedure and it was 327. Quite the drop. I'd go to a men's health clinic that specializes in testosterone replacement. Most docs would see my numbers and conclude I'm " normal" because my numbers are within range, even though I saw a drop of 65%. Free testosterone numbers are even more important that total testosterone. I'm 33 and experienced the same drop in libido. Testosterone helped immensely. Now I just need to figure out my headaches. Good luck
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Yup. I have heard both men and women complain that a sterile guy is less manly (= less sexy).

OP: whose idea was it to have a V? Is he having physical complications that may be impacting his mood?

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Biologically, this is impossible. But mentally, I guess it could happen.
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post #35 of 36 (permalink) Old 04-17-2017, 06:00 AM
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Re: Personality change after vasectomy


Sorry OP but sounds like your husband doesn't like you.
I've had one and I clearly remember the repetitive conversations with my wife. My sex drive is also out of this world.

Plus I know several friends and family members that went through the same procedure with no serious side effects.

Good luck and hopefully you can find love again

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Re: Personality change after vasectomy folks DO know this is a zombie thread that started back in 2012, don't you?
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