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post #1 of 36 (permalink) Old 08-26-2012, 08:04 PM Thread Starter
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Personality change after vasectomy

Has anyone else noticed that there husbands behaviour changed after a vasectomy. My husband changed so much. I have been worried about his memory ( not just his selective memory!) he won't remember conversations with me at all even five minutes after. And other people have said this too me too. He also seemed to change from a kind caring man to someone who is always upset at things, looses patience with the kids and isnt affectionate toward me. In fact he just announced he doesn't love me on Friday (as I have explained in my other posts). He is definitely not having an affair. I know when he is lying nd asked him point blank is someone else involve.

Even he says his desire changed after the vasectomy and I know it's not meant to but he is like a completely different person and the timing is uncanny.

Just wondering... Maybe just grasping at straws!

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Re: Personality change after vasectomy

No. Vasectomies don't do that. Other than wasting 100 dollars on super sized slurpees to stick between my legs, I didn't have any sort of change such as your husband.

I'm not sure what's up, but getting the "I don't love you" speech speaks volumes of an affair starting or in the works.

There is a lot of people claiming they know when thier mates are lying, and I've also read about how wrong they were.

It's human nature to trust. But you need to verify. I hope with all my heart for you that I am wrong.

I don't even like slurpees
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Re: Personality change after vasectomy

I've heard of this before. I knew a guy online that had one and his sex drive went to zero.
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I've heard of this before. I knew a guy online that had one and his sex drive went to zero.
Biologically, this is impossible. But mentally, I guess it could happen.
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Re: Personality change after vasectomy

well I'm not makin it up! He said he hated sex! Maybe he just hated me..

oh dude, lightbulb! ding!
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Re: Personality change after vasectomy

You didn't mention his age or how long its been since surgery.

I invite you to read this, in case it might be helpful. It touches upon the fact that many people are affected by anesthesia for a long time after surgery, and it has been thought that in people prone to dementia that it accelerates the disease process.

Inhaled anesthetics may accelerate the onset of Alzheimer's Disease
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Re: Personality change after vasectomy

Kag,

Vasectomies are local anasthetic only. For reference, here's how mine went....

Doctor: Preps me for surgery. Forgets local anasthetic.
Me: wondering why doctor leaves room for 15 minutes while I stare at the ceiling.
Doctor: Comes back in room. makes incision.
Me: Owwwwwwwww! What the fu(k!
Doctor: does that still hurt?
Me: You fu(king think?!!!!
Doctor: looks at surgery tray. Stares at full needle of anasthetic. Says "oh my! I'm really sorry. I need to give you the anasthetic". Grabs needle. Pokes the shat out of my nuts!
Me: thinking.....why the hell did I decide to do this?!!! This is a big mistake!
Doctor: Leaves room. Returns 15 mi utes later. Proceeds to snip my vas deferens. Leaves room
Me: Oh my god! My balls hurt!
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Re: Personality change after vasectomy

Not all are done under local. My H was about to have one under general. It depends on a guys anatomy, and nerve level. We shopped around and every doc offered general or local, was the patients choice.
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Not all are done under local. My H was about to have one under general. It depends on a guys anatomy, and nerve level. We shopped around and every doc offered general or local, was the patients choice.
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Re: Personality change after vasectomy

I had a vasectomy about 17 years ago. No problems. Sex drive is still higher than my wife's and I remember almost everything

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Re: Personality change after vasectomy

That's a strange one Sherlock. The symptoms you have described are not a noted side effect of a vasectomy.


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Re: Personality change after vasectomy

I know they are not but they has been some studies done in the us and they found possible a link. He is almost 49 and has the vasectomy in march. Before then we had decided to have another child together and she is now 16 months old. I thought that was a decision we made together in a loving relationship.
He had also had good sex drive before the surgery and had discomfort for a long time and has had no sex drive since. None. But his personality changed to. He was a calm, sensitive person and we would bicker but never have big arguments. After the surgery he is stressed, grumpy and was always picking fights even if there was nothing to fight about. Everyone is saying how his character has changed in the last 6 months. It's just weird timing but it was actually him who said everything changed after the procedure.
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Re: Personality change after vasectomy

I have not had vasectomy I was afraid to . I have two older brothers who had one....After the surgeries one brother became mean and the other brother turned into a wimp, their personalities did change. This may not be scientific but it did happen.
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Re: Personality change after vasectomy

I had one 5+ years ago. My drive is still high as hell, and no other changes. I only had local. I thought the needle to the sack was bad, and then I got to smell the inside of my guys getting cauterized. But...I'd do it again in a heartbeat.

My GP told me that some guys lose all drive b/c the thought that they can no longer reproduce messes with their head. I don't know if there is any data to back that up, or if he just pulled it out of his azz.
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