What are your expectations from your partner in your relationship?
I see so many people say they expect this or that form their partner, and then when that person doesn't meet that expectation they get upset.
Example, some people have the expectation their partner should remain physically fit and maintain a decent weight. Some people have said they don't have any expectations, so if something happens they are not disappointed. I can see that to a degree, BUT I think we all need to have some kind of expectations in a relationship. Even in a family with kids there should be some kind of expectations.
Maybe some people's expectations are unrealistic too.
I expect honesty and fidelity - there will be no more chances in that regard. I expect affection and sex. I expect him to contribute financially and with deeds to the running of the household. I expect him to work on bettering himself and our marriage through the years. I expect recognition of milestones such as anniversaries and birthdays. I expect him not to let me down in any big way. And I expect that he expects all the same things from me.
To have no expectations is to set the bar very low, indeed. To have only hope is too lax IMO...so I expect the truth, honesty, equality in decision making...I expect help or services when I ask for it, whether that's a backrub, cleaning the dishes, or cooking a meal. I expect to be treated well at all times; no exceptions. I expect a healthy physical/romantic/sex life...I expect to return all of the above to my partner as well.
I have the basic expectations. I expect my spouse to be faithful to me from now on, to not beat me, and not to force himself on me. Those are my dealbreakers. Those would automatically result in a divorce from me.
Also, to a lesser effect, I expect my husband to spend time with his daughter. He does this, however, because he doesn't want to be like his father was.
Please do not turn my thread into who said what word and why one might be better the other. I don't care if its the word "expectation" or "hope" or any other is used. If trey used "hope" because thats how he sees it, fine! Its not a problem. Obviously the outcome of having consequences is the same!