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One thing is funny though, I hear lots of guys (well me on a few occasions anyway) flash their junk to their SO and the women complain and hate it, but I think a large part of it is a passive way the guy is saying "flash me more, see just like I'm doing to you!".
The golden rule breaks down when what two people want are different. He's doing it because he would like it if his wife did it.
Yeah, it's unfair to the shrinkers! Wifeys boobs don't shrink when she's not turned on!
Well I definitely have experienced shrinkage since I started working out seriously a couple years ago. Major!
Showing boobs to me is just as private as my other lady parts and unless it was a female only topless beach, I think if we are gonna be exposing ourselves (for the males viewing pleasure...because it would be) then the guys need to feel just as vulnerable and oggled.
Wife would never do it, she doesn't even like to be naked/topless in the womens locker room when we go swimming/gym etc. Infact, she says the only person who gets to see her is me and even then she's still a little shy about it, which I find endearing.
As for my own opinion... lets put it this way; if I saw a girl do that I'd want to screw her 'cos it's hot, but I wouldn't want to go out with her.
I think if your husband asked you to do such a thing to a group of men or other men, it's a sexual thing, and he's sharing you around. He's not valuing you, he's not loving you. He's thinking about getting off. It's purely selfish.
I want someone who loves me and values me, who knows that our sex life should be between us and not any one else.
I see no point in flashing any part of my body for a man other than my SO/husband. It would be disrespectful towards him.
I would even be surprised if he asked me to do such thing while other men are around. I would feel offended.
But if it were just the two of us ..well...anything for him! Anytime!
__________________ Davelli0331:If a GNO, or alcohol, or an attractive coworker, or a past flame on FB were all that were needed for someone to cheat, then I think that person had that defect in their integrity all along. All they ever lacked was the opportunity to act on their lack of integrity and the circumstances required to rationalize it to themselves.
Now i have never done the so called flashing of breasts in person, normally because doing so is a sexual come on and that would be giving the wrong impression.
But....
I like being naked and see nothing wrong with it and topless beach fine no topless beach fine, i'll make it topless, what is the issue, sometimes i believe we over sexualize things.
What about men that flash their junk, is it sexually inciting or intimidating or a bit of both.
I think if your husband asked you to do such a thing to a group of men or other men, it's a sexual thing, and he's sharing you around. He's not valuing you, he's not loving you. He's thinking about getting off. It's purely selfish.
Unless you are a man who likes to do it you don't know his motivation. You certainly can't decide that someone who likes to show off his wife doesn't value her or love her. It could well be the opposite.
We don't have to be so uptight about all this. Flashing a little flesh for titilation is not really a crime.
__________________ Davelli0331:If a GNO, or alcohol, or an attractive coworker, or a past flame on FB were all that were needed for someone to cheat, then I think that person had that defect in their integrity all along. All they ever lacked was the opportunity to act on their lack of integrity and the circumstances required to rationalize it to themselves.
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