My girlfriends look at me like a weirdo because I'm almost 25 and still virgin and because of this they think I don't know what an orgasm feels like.
It's just they they don't know I can get off by myself and if they knew, they would call me crazy.
One of them has had many sex partners but she has never felt the orgasm. At this point, I call myself lucky. I mean...who needs sex when you can't get pleasure out of it? To me it's pointless.
I'd rather get self-pleasure all day then have someone penetrating me without making me orgasm.
This reminds me of me & my best friend...known her since 9th grade.... of course the masterbation topic never came up when we were young....She got pregnant early , the guy left before the baby was born, got pregnant again a few yrs later, this father did the right thing & married her a couple months later....
A few yrs ago...openly talking about SEX and our experiences, she confided in me how she has NEVER had an orgasm in her life... I was shocked...Like REALLY!@#$%^&*
She tells me she has no idea what that feeling is like ....I know she thinks I am a sex fiend.....but ya know , without experiencing that- how can someone "get it". I can attest.... she has very very little interest in sex/ guys...in her youth she just wanted marriage -like the rest of us...so she did what the guy wanted- feeling this would reel him in.
Her husband did end up cheating on her ....all she wanted from him was ..... Acts of Service , always complaining he doesn't help her around the house....... she never needed him sexually....and well, he was a MAN, he wanted her to want him....and have the robust spicy sex life. Alot of tension over these things ...they were never a good match.
Sex with someone you deeply love is way beyond the excitment of masterbation. I find that hollow in comparison...so does my husband.
Yeah, LovelyGirl, once you give it up - one thing is for sure...you won't want to go backwards . It can be a blessing to not know exactly what we are missing -a little innocence there -if it preserves us for "the one". And it sure takes the EDGE off in the meantime.
I found it disgraceful when Jocelyn Elders got canned for speaking openly about Masterbation - story here - The Dreaded "M" Word