Re: Never saying sorry
This is from my own personal experience with it. My husband came from a family where the word "sorry" was rarely used if ever, and certainly not shown. So for me, I would say it can actually be a learned behavior. Or in my husbands case it seems so.
He has said it on occasion, but for some reason it really never seemed genuine. Perhaps that is because he usually did repeat the same kinds of things he said he was sorry for, so I guess I never felt he was really sorry.
I remember once yrs ago he actually said to me when I asked him why he never told he me was sorry, he said, "Why should I tell you I'm sorry if I'm just gonna do the same thing over and over again?" I remember feeling shocked at such a comment, because that actually came across as someone who knew they did wrong and was going to keep doing wrong regardless of how someone else may have felt. Kinda like it was pre-planned to keep doing the same things.
I do think too, there is a lack of empathy there. I don't know if that s mental illness kind of thing or what. I have to wonder too, if a person such as that is so wrapped up in their own hurt, guilt and shame that maybe they can't see beyond themselves enough to say they are sorry.
"If you always do what you've always done, you will always get what you've always gotten."