hello all. i stumbled upon this site and have enjoyed the mature dialogue, so here goes. i have been struggling with an issue for the last 6 months or so and would really like some objective input.
i have been married to a man from another culture for the last 10 years. we are both in our early 40's. well my husband met this older lady (60 something) at church from his culture and really hit it off with her apparently because i noticed that he has been calling her every day practically since they met. she is married and has a lot of problems and he tells me that he sees her like a mother figure (his mom is back in the old country).
anyway, they both speak the same language and i have heard her call him son when she thought he was on the phone. i have been to this woman's house on several occasions and she has invited me to come over anytime, but i really don't hit it off with her that well. she's very nice, but i just don't see why he needs to call her so much (sometimes several times a day, talking for a few minutes at a time to upwards of 30 minutes or so).
he also stops over to see her.
the problem....he really only calls her when i am not around.
he calls her on car rides, or first thing in the morning when he leaves the house when he is alone in the car.
it has come to the point where i am jealous of someone old enough to be my mother.
when questioning him about the relationship, he insists that he sees her like a mother and that she needs help (she doesn't read or speak english very well and complains of alot of physical ailments).
i don't know. i have turned into a stalker now, checking the phone bill for how often he is talking to her and it is every single day.
am i being ridiculous? i just don't know what to think anymore. i really don't think there's anything sexual going on...is this normal? i am i overreacting?
any input appreciated......:scratchhead:
i have been married to a man from another culture for the last 10 years. we are both in our early 40's. well my husband met this older lady (60 something) at church from his culture and really hit it off with her apparently because i noticed that he has been calling her every day practically since they met. she is married and has a lot of problems and he tells me that he sees her like a mother figure (his mom is back in the old country).
anyway, they both speak the same language and i have heard her call him son when she thought he was on the phone. i have been to this woman's house on several occasions and she has invited me to come over anytime, but i really don't hit it off with her that well. she's very nice, but i just don't see why he needs to call her so much (sometimes several times a day, talking for a few minutes at a time to upwards of 30 minutes or so).
he also stops over to see her.
the problem....he really only calls her when i am not around.
he calls her on car rides, or first thing in the morning when he leaves the house when he is alone in the car.
it has come to the point where i am jealous of someone old enough to be my mother.
when questioning him about the relationship, he insists that he sees her like a mother and that she needs help (she doesn't read or speak english very well and complains of alot of physical ailments).
i don't know. i have turned into a stalker now, checking the phone bill for how often he is talking to her and it is every single day.
am i being ridiculous? i just don't know what to think anymore. i really don't think there's anything sexual going on...is this normal? i am i overreacting?
any input appreciated......:scratchhead: