My wife. The bipolar mess
My wife is no longer living with me and our two children. She is most likely bipolar as she has experienced this same type of behavior now 3 times. Once in 1999, 2006, and fall 2011-?
The story each time is the same. she disconnects, abandons her real friends and family, befriends co workers, and acts wreckless with drinking, driving, spending, etc. she is in denial and is not on medication, etc.
Not here to focus on the details of her illness. I have a 17 yr relationship that was perfect for me. during the non manic times, she was everything i ever wanted....during the phases, it was hell.
Currently, I have two children 8 & 11 and my eldest especially is hurting so bad about us not being together. My youngest is also struggling but in different ways. They both are in thereapy once a week.
Me. I am a mess. I live in the marital home, act as a stay at home mom, father, and career man all in one.
We have a property settlement agreement in place...basically a financial divorce.....custody, etc.
She has been out of the house since Feb. 2012
My oldest daughter hates the fact she is no longer here. She is embarrased, ashamed, and deeply wounded inside. Ive tried a few therapists and she hasnt opened to any othem.
My manic wife met a loser....not just a jealousy loser, but a real loser....online and has been seeing him...I went on a few dates and am not ready for it...I am really broken hearted over this but the collateral damage is too great. She has stated she wants a divorce and will file, but never does...im sure in this mental state she really does...
I love the person she was....who she is now is an emotionally sick HORRIBLE person...she treats the kids poorly, emotionally abuses them, etc.
Main Issue....my kids..for some reason, they feel better knowing we arent officially divorced. Since my "wife" makes little comments about filing (she has no lawyer or money left from her share) should I just wait? my lawyer says there is no reason to file (unless she needs a court motion because she continues to struggle with the kids) as it would only be a title. My agreement is set.
Would the kids blame me for filing eventhough they know their mother caused all of this?
Anyone with experience like this?
Its an awful place to be...