My wife has a nasty temper. Just this morning I made the mistake of telling her she probably shouldn't drink as much coffee and eat deli meat now that she is 3 months pregnant. This lead to FUs, telling me that I have no say in how she handles her pregnancy, and actually coming right within an inch of my ear and screaming that I need to be home by a certain time. The thing that bothers me so much about this is that she has our son right with her while she is screaming at me. I've become alright at brushing this stuff off but I'm worried about my son.
Later that day I came home later than she wanted me to and was called an *******. She then, while getting ready to leave, hugged our son goodbye and said "sorry your dad is such an ******* and screwed up our day". I decided to pipe in and tell her to not use that type of language in front of him which lead to another outburst. I decided to tune her out again and when she came within an inch I plugged my ears which was followed by her dumping her glass of water all over my head.
I know that these outbursts aren't normal and I am trying to get her to come to couples therapy but haven't made much ground.
My questions are,
- is it worse for my son to see this happening which could definitely be shaping who he is and how he eventually treats his wife some dayshould
- I seriously be considering divorce just for the sake of removing me from a toxic situation
- would him growing up in a divorced family be just as bad
Later that day I came home later than she wanted me to and was called an *******. She then, while getting ready to leave, hugged our son goodbye and said "sorry your dad is such an ******* and screwed up our day". I decided to pipe in and tell her to not use that type of language in front of him which lead to another outburst. I decided to tune her out again and when she came within an inch I plugged my ears which was followed by her dumping her glass of water all over my head.
I know that these outbursts aren't normal and I am trying to get her to come to couples therapy but haven't made much ground.
My questions are,
- is it worse for my son to see this happening which could definitely be shaping who he is and how he eventually treats his wife some dayshould
- I seriously be considering divorce just for the sake of removing me from a toxic situation
- would him growing up in a divorced family be just as bad