05-27-2009, 02:45 PM
Join Date: May 2009
| | Re: Falling out of love...
Originally Posted by Rhea
One of my favorite quotes:
"Love is like a violin, the strings are always there, but sometimes the music gets lost."
I've never been a believer of the "I fell or he fell out of love" thing. To me once you love someone you always do, there are different phases and different kinds yes. But you always love them. Honestly I don't buy the I feel out of love thing it's comeplete BS to me. You have to replace an active love w/someone else to get rid of it (my opinions)
I can see if you've had an affair and let someone outside your marriage take your H/W place but not just using it as an excuse to me saying that is a cover up for someone being lazy....
Ranting today sorry. My husband is using this excuse and it's driving me nuts amongst other things.
I have fallen in love in my youth with some very bad characters...
people I can only thank God I never married.
I think you can care about someone or have a sexual attraction to them, but that does not mean love or you are a good partner with them. Many people think love is about lusty feelings and after many years of actually realizing that, I have come to believe it's not good to base LOVE on feelings as feelings can change. You base a partnership on many other things too... not just feelings as love ( feelings) does not conquer all.
I think in a marriage or relationship when someone says that, what they mean is your not a good team
or do not have a good partnership, they just don't know the right words to convery those thoughts.