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Old 10-23-2012, 04:49 PM   #1 (permalink)
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I keep on running into a very attractive high school acquaintance at the supermarket. I saw her once again the other day. I don't know if I am paranoid but I was wondering if she didn't want to talk to me since we run into each other almost every time. MY EGO IS TOO BIG FOR THAT. LOL How do I handle it next time I see her? Should I not say hello? Should I just act cool and say "can't talk now..." I don't want to say "oh hello" every time I see her, especially if she don't want to talk.
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Old 10-23-2012, 05:14 PM   #2 (permalink)
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Do you want to say hello? Then say hello. If you don't, then don't, and don't worry about it. I'm not sure what the issue is. If you say hello each time and she doesn't reply, then she's probably not interested in chatting. Seems fairly straightforward to me...
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Old 10-23-2012, 05:14 PM   #3 (permalink)
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Are you married? Your answer to this question i'm sure will determine what type of responses you get
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Old 10-23-2012, 05:21 PM   #4 (permalink)
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I am quite scared of supermarkets myself, but for a rather different reason...

Why don't you just try talking with her and maybe ask if you two can meet up for coffee or something? Maybe lunch? Worst thing she can do is say no.

And make sure she isn't wearing a wedding ring. That is a big one.
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Old 10-23-2012, 06:29 PM   #5 (permalink)
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I just don't want to get the cold shoulder from her. I'm not looking for lunch, or an EM. But my large frail ego would really be pissed off if she thinks I'm so desperate that I need to stop and have her chat, chat chat with me each time we run into each other.
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Old 10-23-2012, 06:54 PM   #6 (permalink)
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I just don't want to get the cold shoulder from her. I'm not looking for lunch, or an EM. But my large frail ego would really be pissed off if she thinks I'm so desperate that I need to stop and have her chat, chat chat with me each time we run into each other.
who cares what she thinks. sounds like you have a crush.
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Old 10-23-2012, 07:18 PM   #7 (permalink)
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You can take your best shot and possibly go down in flames.

Or

You can be a wimp and guarantee that absolutely nothing will happen, ever.

I mean really, "Hey! How ya doing? Listen, after I finish shopping, I was heading to get a coffee, want to meet me there and catch up?"

She says" Yea, that sounds great"- You and your fagile ego are on a roll.

She says "No, I'm really busy"- You say "Well, maybe some other time, I drink lots of coffee" You and your ego move on with the comforting thought that at least you tried.
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Old 10-23-2012, 07:20 PM   #8 (permalink)
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and if you already have a wife,

don't be a douche.
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Old 10-23-2012, 07:36 PM   #9 (permalink)
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I keep on running into a very attractive high school acquaintance at the supermarket. I saw her once again the other day. I don't know if I am paranoid but I was wondering if she didn't want to talk to me since we run into each other almost every time. MY EGO IS TOO BIG FOR THAT. LOL How do I handle it next time I see her? Should I not say hello? Should I just act cool and say "can't talk now..." I don't want to say "oh hello" every time I see her, especially if she don't want to talk.
Your profile says you are married. Why don't you ask your wife what she thinks you should do?
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Old 10-23-2012, 07:47 PM   #10 (permalink)
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You don't want to seem desperate... and yet you are. Your ego can't stand the fact that she isn't interested in chatting? Take a hint, leave her alone, and take the blow to your ego. You sound narcissitic to me.
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Old 10-23-2012, 08:59 PM   #11 (permalink)
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I am quite scared of supermarkets myself, but for a rather different reason
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Old 10-24-2012, 05:39 AM   #12 (permalink)
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Your ego is too big? Sounds like your ego is too frail. But more importantly, you're a married guy asking TAM how to hit on a woman. Are you serious?
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Old 10-24-2012, 06:01 AM   #13 (permalink)
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Yes. The ego isn't to big IMO. It seems to frail.

Don't know if your married or not, and no dispespect, but:

1. This woman is hot.
2. Your too scared to talk to her.
3. Your too scared she will say no.

Sounds like the relationship is over before it's started. If you show absolutely no confidence, then your sex rank against this woman is about 4 points lower than it needs to be.

Forgedaboudit! You have no chance!

Now...if you showed confidence of character and didn't come across as emotionally weak....then maybe I'd post differently......hmmmmm.
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Old 10-24-2012, 07:38 AM   #14 (permalink)
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Just go up to her and make some dumb remark about meeting up all the time and ask her out for coffee or whatever you single people do....uh ermmmm if you are single.
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Old 10-24-2012, 08:29 AM   #15 (permalink)
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So ashamedbuthonest,

Here is what you do. You ask her if she's Mary Rottencrotch that you went to school with.

You bring up some little quirky scandal from HS to share a mutual laugh.

Ask her about how you tell if a melon is ripe or not. If she doesn't know, you have a mutual laugh about how no one really knows.

After about 10 minutes of this, it's only NATURAL to get a coffee at the cafe in the supermarket. You tell her you are getting one and she can tag along if she wants.

Then you catch up on your job, your dreams, the things that didn't pan out like you thought in HS.

(Quick tip: Aisle 14 has cosmetics. Use a skin appropriate bronzer to hide the pale wedding ring mark.)

You casually mention that you stop by EVERY Thursday about this time. Just a comment. Certainly nothing PLANNED about that.

But then you mention that THIS coming Thursday, you want to come during lunch at around 11. Ask offhandedly when she comes by.

Well, NO ONE should shop when they are hungry, so you invite her to that charming little Tex Mex place you've been thinking about taking your wife. But why waste it on her?

So you suggest lunch with this woman and have a pleasant meal where you laugh, connect, and have A Moment. You two just have this silent connected moment. You'll recall it because you had a similar one with your wife before you got intimate. This is a good sign.

(Quick tip: Don't forget to stop at the ATM for cash because that would be an awkward conversation with the wife if it's on the credit card)

Well, after about 3 weeks of 'just running into each other' it's a short path to exchanging numbers and texting

(Quick Tip: The endcap near the self check out counters has burner cellphones and cards to recharge it.)

So in about three months, you just have this 'connection' The wife is happy you are taking care of all the grocery shopping, so it's bonus points for you ALL THE WAY!

(Quick Tip: The pharmacy section in the supermarket has condoms and lube. Some women cheating on THEIR husbands have a lubrication problem. There are also catalogs at rest areas on the highways which have coupons for the cut rate hotels most cheaters go to...)

Well, your sweetheart's husband wonders why the hell she's always at the grocery yet they never have any food. So they have a blow up and she is emotionally distraught and she calls you on your burner phone...at 6 p.m....when you are sitting with your family at dinnner...and the ring tone isn't anything like your phone.

So your WIFE answers it...wondering what the hell is going on.

She sees the 50 texts a day and compares that to the fact she can barely get you on the phone

(quick tip to wife: you can get divorce forms for $199 dollars for all states. Also, when you value the estate, his tools have a value and should be included in the estimate of the divorce)

So your son is now spitting on you and your daughter, who plainly sees that even as wonderful a man as HER DADDY is a cheating inconsiderate PIG, decides all men are worthless and either becomes a lesbian or dates a Hell's Angel named Thor.

Meanwhile, all you can afford is a sh*tty little apartment, your sweetie had to go to her mother three states away because she's getting divorced, your family hates you and all your money is going to TWO residences, child support, alimony, and legal bills for not one, but TWO divorces. Damn lawyers.

How is your Ego feeling now?
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