Problems in the bedroom..
Me and my girlfriend have been together for almost a year now, we have lived together happily for most of that time and everything is awesome apart from our sex life.
She had a problem with her x boyfriend, she never was really randy and he ended up cheating on her.
She says she just doesn't really like sex but whenever I'm not home she will get herself off to a dvd..
It really frustrates me that she can't even do it to satisfy me once every now and then and creates big problems for me and in-turn us
She will say things like
'oh I was ready last night but you went to sleep' maybe tonight?
I'll say yes ofcourse but when it comes around to it she will reject me with 'do we have to?' what is that?
I say 'no' because otherwise its like I'm raping her!
Does anyone have any advice for us?
She says she doesnt know whats wrong with her and doesn't know what to do.
This causes me to turn passive aggressive, meaning that I get grumpy and don't want to talk to her, she in-turn thinks I'm going to leave her but instead of working a solution just hopes for the best. I will talk to her about it tonight and let you know how I go but I don't see much happening from that as usual.
Its kinda 'like it or lump it'
She has never been an affectionate person, she says she finds it 'smothering' if anyone gets close to her, including friends giving hugs etc.
While Im the total opposite, Im 29, shes 34 FWIW
Surely this must have come up before so I'm hoping we can find a solution.
Last edited by imme!!; 06-01-2009 at 11:55 PM.