10-25-2012, 12:19 PM
Join Date: Feb 2011
Location: My side of the street
| | Re: My husband and mother hate each other
Originally Posted by needbtrlife
My mom has no job so she can't live on her own. She claims that my house is torture to her.
You said your mother is going through a separation. Is her husband going to divorce her? With a marriage of 30 years, she should get a settlement or spousal support from him. What's the deal with that?
Has your mother considered part-time work, even if it's a retail job? I'm assuming her husband gave her no money, she can't get any type of job, and she can't live on her own due to those circumstances.
Yet your house is "torture" for her. End her misery. Tell her to move in with another family member, a friend, or seek financial support from her estranged husband. It's either that, or tell her, in no uncertain terms, that she's living in YOUR HOUSE and she can learn to abide by what you and your husband expect of her - as a guest - or she can make other arrangements.
And quit stressing about her complaining. She took it upon herself to overstep boundaries by taking over your home on her terms. Time to put on your big girl panties and set mom straight.
I refuse to make anyone a priority in my life who considers me nothing more than an option.
You can't start the next chapter of your life if you keep re-reading the last one.