I have to disagree, common interests do matter...there has to be a balance of things you do with friends and things you do together as a couple. Common goals is equally important but who cares if you reach them if you aren't doing it together.
I beg to differ. My husbands interests are grilling, guns, trucks and astronomy ( has huge telescope). I have none of those interests at all, mine are arts and crafts, reading ( mostly literature).
Our common values are privacy, hard work, clean surroundings, a nice home, we are both savers and plan to retire at the same time too and both want to have the same lifestyle, which is living at a mountain resort when we retire... and we already have the place picked out after we both researched it.
When we do retire, I will be fishing most days and he will
and I hope he doesn't aquire a taste for fishing because I like to have my own time, doing my own thing and do not want a 24/7 companion, already have a dog !!!!
I'd like to get more into yoga and meditation and I can tell you for sure, he would have no interest in any of that.
Does that mean we do not love each other?
I'd say it means we love each other very much as we trust each other more than most and can be away from each other and not feel threatened. Your partner is not here in life to meet all your needs, only God can meet all your needs.
He is just my partner and spouse, he can only be and do so much.
When I met my husband and saw we had few common interests but the same lifes goals, I was like WOOOOOWEEE ! jackpot ! a balanced person who isn't want to be tethered to me !
Besides that, since our interests differ so much we make a very balanced couple...
as we can do anything as a team, I can fix things, he can find things and when you add up both our talents, we are a very good team. Imagine if your partner only knew about what you did !!! how sad that would be and you would be limited too in what you could do !
I have a friend who is married to a guy and they have many common interests. I noticed they are often in competition with each other and then they always argue who has to do what because neither one of them wants to do any housework...
they are more competetors than spouses.
shesh... forget that.. life is stressful enough than to have that in your life !
and they also never agree on anything even though they have many of the same hobbies !