11-02-2012, 12:07 AM
Join Date: Aug 2012
| | Re: How long does it take to fall in love?
Originally Posted by Holland
Can you explain this more?
After divorce I had lots of casual dating with no intention of finding a serious relationship or love. But hey it has happened anyway, I am scared some days and excited other days.
I knew I was falling in love with him after a couple of months, at about 5 months I was certain about being in love.
We have not said ILY, he has tried a couple of times but I seem to have this way of cutting him off at the pass IYKWIM.
There are days like today where I feel overwhelmed by it all, yes I am in love but I am also scared by it.
I know he feels the same way and is trying "not to mess it up".
Most guys I've known, know whether or not the girl they're starting to date is "in love" material almost right away. I'm not saying the long term choices you make to maintain love, just that "in love" feeling that gets the ball moving to build into a long term relationship. I'm speaking from my personal experience, but men feel the "zing" or they don't and it's right away. There's a reason you hear a lot of stories about a guy dating a woman for years, never a proposal etc. then they break up and he's engaged to another woman in 6 months.
Don't get me wrong, just because a guy doesn't jump to saying I love you, or proposing quickly, doesn't mean he doesn't feel the zing. That's what I meant about "not messing it up". When a guy finds "the one" he goes through a lot of self analysis about how to play out the relationship to make sure it can develop further. When to tell her I love you, early, wait, not too soon, don't wait too long, WHEN should I, don't do it right after sex she'll think I didn't really mean it...etc etc. LOL.
The more posts I read.
The more I love my wife!