Hi to anyone reading i don't know if i have a problem or not but i feel i do that's why i'm posting it has been bothering me for awhile now i live with my boyfriend for 3 months now met most of his friends esp the girl one only have a problem with the 1 girl, which she is married my boyfriend i guess use to go to her horse barn after work all the time when he was single to hang out with her which i guess her husband was there sometimes but all the time, i met her everything was fine she invited me over to hang out with the boyfriend i even helped her on her new land never said an out of a way word to her have always been nice to her! But now she doesn't invite "us" over just him she invites him over to ride, wings or just to hang out i understand they have been friends for a long time but... I confront him about it I just get i don't know so he asks her about it she says she doesn't have a problem with me likes me but then y does she not invite me over along with him anymore?
It's like I'm not allowed to have an opinion about it he says he wld take me with him but i feel unwelcomed i feel like my feeling dont matter he even texts her "hey i was just thinking about you i feel this is inappropriate on his part i dont think there is anything going on but dont i have a right to feel at ease? He tells her he cant hang with her now when we use to hang out with her all the time! I feel like he is not trying to make me a part of that relationship like he use to i dont know what changed
Am I jumping to conclusions? O and when he is texting her he gets all happy like saying she is funny. he doesnt think anything is wrong im jealous etc! any advice would be great!
You are living together so one would assume that it is a committed relationship. Your BF should not be hanging out with an opposite sex friend, particularly since he knows that you are uncomfortable with it. I'm surprised that the woman's H is OK with their relationship...
As the above poster said, you need to get some boundaries in place with your BF.
"Come to the edge, he said. We are afraid, they said. Come to the edge, he said. They came to the edge, He pushed them and they flew. Come to the edge, Life said. They said: We are afraid. Come to the edge, Life said. They came. It pushed them... And they flew.” ~ Guilliame Apollinaire ~
But now she doesn't invite "us" over just him she invites him over to ride, wings or just to hang out
The only reason opposite sex friends are even a MINOR possibility is that the woman usually doesn't have a sexual desire for the male "friend". The male ALWAYS does (so yes, your boyfriend wants to screw her, of that I have little doubt), so when the female does as well, then nature takes it's course the way it has for a million years.
This emotional relationship WILL cross the line to physical very soon, if it hasn't already.
Time to look for a new apartment and probably a new boyfriend. He is way too comfortable that you are there no matter what and he can do what he wants and you will just hang out and wait for him to come home. Don't waste your time on a Barney, life is too short.
u r so right! i even told him u r way too comfortable me being here he does do what he wants but he thinks it's ok cus he checks in with me he acts like we have been dating for a year or something which would make more sense but we haven't been. nope i will not wait i'm not waiting on anyone to change because things never will. i deserve so much better! thanks!