06-18-2009, 01:45 PM
Join Date: Jun 2009
| | Re: I've Been Abusive
Start taking anger management classes. I feel like I've been abusive to my wife as well, but as of recent I think the entire relationship has bottled issues that we have not discussed or dealt with before.
Just remember, only you can control your actions and reactions, not hers. Part of your abusive behaviors is due to your cognitive thinking. I would start working with that with your counselor. I would also pick up a few books as well:
1) I'm OK You're OK by Thomas A. Harris- Classic book that is still effective
2) Rage: A Step-by-Step guide to Explosive Anger by Ronal T. Potter-Efron
Despite the stigma of what people say about abusive relationships, you do have a problem, but it doesn't mean that you aren't a good person. I have been trying to realize that since I've been separated. It's really tough, but give yourself credit that you are seeking professional help and looking for more ways to improve yourself.
Hope this helps