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Old 06-17-2009, 05:39 PM   #1 (permalink)
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Default Too much water under the bridge?

When someone lists "too much water under the bridge" as a reason for divorce, what does that mean to you?

I see it as resentment or a grudge they can't let go of.

To me the water is always flowing - good times, bad times, what comes under the bridge starts upstream with actions - loving gestures, arguments, what have you.

You can change what water goes under that bridge whenever you want. Make it all sparkly and good from here on out, just watch it go by (passively living the relationship without trying to hurt/help anything) or throw in sludge upstream and say "there! see, it's all bad!"

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Old 06-17-2009, 05:42 PM   #2 (permalink)
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When someone lists "too much water under the bridge" as a reason for divorce, what does that mean to you?]

I take it to mean that the problems seem too great to overcome and the person wants to just walk away and not deal with it.
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Old 06-17-2009, 06:00 PM   #3 (permalink)
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Too much water has passed under the bridge, my wife,

For a little thing to tear us apart before the end.

A relationship that a special bond that holds stronger than most

For we that made it through will never give up the friendship ghost.

Too much water under the bridge!
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Old 06-17-2009, 06:24 PM   #4 (permalink)
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very, um... poetic smgmtman -

tho the phrase "friendship ghost" stings more than possibly intended as he has 'sacrificed our relationship to save our friendship' in his words.
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Old 06-17-2009, 06:33 PM   #5 (permalink)
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Snix,

Very very well read.
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Old 06-17-2009, 06:48 PM   #6 (permalink)
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I agree with Leah to a point.

Really what it says to me is someone is too lazy to be bothered trying to fix things. Or doesn't care.

Either way a sign of depression that needs professional help. But he won't go, will he?

Well, a friendship IS a relationship. Love grows from that friendship. Lives shared grow from that love. So he hasn't given up anything, just decided to change the way he shows it. Incorrectly, I might add.
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Old 06-18-2009, 07:42 AM   #7 (permalink)
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Interesting point DC.. I'll give it some thought. Anybody else? I have been racking my brain for other ideas, but it seems to keep boiling down to a cop out to me. shrug.
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Old 06-18-2009, 08:09 AM   #8 (permalink)
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Is he of German decent? I am german, we are stubborn SOB's and we can't let go of certain things.

It may just be his mental makeup that he can not stop thinking about it.

I remember things my wife said 12 years ago...don't use them...but they are in my head. I am stubborn I work hard not to be.
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Old 06-18-2009, 10:21 PM   #9 (permalink)
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He's stubborn Squared. No wait, make that Cubed... def a cube

Anyway, whatever I love his stubborn nature, his manly manness of him, his strength.

WHEN it's used for good and not against me or us!
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Old 06-18-2009, 10:30 PM   #10 (permalink)
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My wife has told me the same thing.

In fact, she's still so angry she doesn't even remember any of that nice clean sparkly water that went under as well.

I don't get it, if youre suppose to take the good with the bad, how can you take it from just one angle?

My wife is extremely stubborn also and still holds grudges against people for relatively minor things that occured many years ago!
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Old 06-18-2009, 10:34 PM   #11 (permalink)
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Eh hem...here is my quote for all of you quoters out there:

"Love is a friendship set on FIRE"

oh here's another one

"Love is like a War, easy to start, had as hell to end."

ahhhh sh*t she's keepin em comin tonight, here's another

"Love is like a violen, the music may sometimes get lost BUT the strings are ALWAYS there."

I'll be here all night *thanks you all for listening and takes a bow*
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Rhea... (((*** HUGS ***)))
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Old 06-18-2009, 11:08 PM   #13 (permalink)
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lol I'm in an ODD mood tonite strangly enough after such a sh*tty night I've got jokes...weird no? LOL
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keep em coming Rhea.... better to laugh than to cry
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Old 06-19-2009, 06:44 AM   #15 (permalink)
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To me it means that he has so much "Stuff" ot like my 10 years old will tell you "ISSUES" that has not been able to get over or does not want to get over them. The damp is blocked and he is refusing to unblocked for the water to run thru. He is just a very stubborn person.
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