Mdcl33

My wife got breast implants about a year ago and now has sort of gone crazy with her cleavage. I mean it seems like her shirts and dresses are getting lower and lower with more breast showing all the time. Every shirt is like this now. She nevers wears anything else. I know it's for attention and all that but is this normal? Am I a jerk for telling her to not be so revealing? What's the boundary here? Thanks.

blondegirl

It is your wife, so you two should have a mutual agreement on what is to revealing and whats not. And no your definitely not being a jerk!! You have say in this too. Just as she does about what clothes you should wear.

Sandy55

My spouse is supposed to have a say about what I WEAR?? A spouse is not a parent for heaven's sake. If I ask him do you like blue or green in this dress...he is ASKED, yes, but him actually having a SAY in what I wear?

recent_cloud

what's acceptable cleavage?

all of it.

Sandy55

No, it is not normal, or at least no less normal than when you buy a new Mercedes and you go out and show it off, aka throw it in the faces of others.

Has she always been the type to throw her new purchases in the faces of others?

No you are not a jerk for telling her to be a lady.

The boundary is how much you are willing to take. If it is a deal breaker, tell her so. And as for you: be careful what you wish for!

Classless is what this is about. Just tell her she looks as if she has no class and intelligence when she hangs them in the face of others. If she gets insulted, so be it. She needs to know she is starting to look and act like a red district woman.

snix11

LOL

hear hear!! I took me 27 years and three kids to grow anything remotely resembling cleavage... I darn sure show it off every once in a while.

Besides, they are her new toys.. she like the attention. Men get fancy red sports-cars and drive them around for the same reasons. Maybe we should bring back cod-pieces and let the men show them off

Why did she get them anyway? who's idea was it? who paid for it?

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GAsoccerman

i'm with Recent, the more my wife shows off the happier I am.

As with snix, 3 kids did my wife well and she is proud of her natural beauties

Lavender

None...

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Veronica Jackson

Whatever makes both partners comfortble is acceptable.

snix11

see thru turtleneck?

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studlyc

I agree with Blondegirl. She didn't say like a parent. Its your partner and you two should both be on the same page about what your both wearing. Obviously this is making him uncomfortable and she needs to know that he isn't okay with it.

bhappy3

This is interesting! A friend of mine just got hers done a week and a half ago, by choice. Another friend of mine had a double mastectomy and had hers redone two weeks ago. So, first said friend felt guilty for doing what she did b/c it was a vanity thing, not a necessity thing like second said friend.

Personally, if I had mine done, I still would dress in big T shirts on a daily basis, and wear the low cut cleavage shirts when we go out. I'm not the type to shove my goods in people's faces on a daily basis, but I do like to dress sexy when we go out.

Snix had some good points about men and red sports cars and who paid for them, and for what reason she got them.

Mommy22... I'm not the type to want other's men to fantasize about me on a daily basis, say, at the grocery store, but for some reason I'll dress like that when we go out to the bar or a party. I still don't want other's men gawking at me, but when you add alcohol, it makes for a fun time. I deserve to dress sexy now and then.

Sandy, I agree... my spouse is not my parent, and I am not his. I PREFER things for him to wear and not wear, and I suppose if he went with a bunch of stuff that I abhored, I would have serious issues with it. We go clothes shopping together, actually. I also agree with whether or not she's always been the kind to shove her new purchaes in the faces of others (something I really despise about people b/c it's actually a huge insecurity and that's why they're doing it). If this is a new personality for her, that wasn't something you married.

Hubby just walked in and put in his two cents... what's the point of getting a boob job if you're not going to show them.

I have to disagree with that some... everything in moderation. A boob job can look great in shirts that don't show off cleavage as well. I think that's my final answer here. =)

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Mr. R

It shows a complete lack of class. Do you think other people want their children seeing this?

I don't mind a woman who shows off her "assets" in the proper context: in private with her man. Anything else is unacceptable. A long time ago someone said "Do not cast your pearls before swine." Also, I remember this quote: "Like a gold ring through a swine's nose, so is a lovely woman without discretion."

If the woman has large breasts and covers them up with clothes, obviously they're still going to be prominent, but at least she has shown some class as opposed the the woman who wears v-neck type shirts. Doesn't anyone believe in leaving anything to the imagination anymore?

bhappy3

Good point Mr. R. Maybe that's why I save my cleavage shirts for when I go out... not a chance of coming across a family unit in a bar. No kids or religious people to offend.

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Sandy55

Apparently not!

I go to the gym in a part of town where there is plenty of money for adding "sports cars" to the chest.

As I exercise I watch people of course, and wonder: "What are some of these poor creatures THINKING??!! Most implants are so OBVIOUS, especially when the woman they are "planted" in is about 5' 4" and skinny as a rail and the ONLY part of her is the two massive balls of C+ cup (or larger) gel stuck to her chest that the stretchy spandex is making look even more so STRANGE and out of place. Tiny butt, tiny little arms, petite everywhere...but THEN she has actually asked some surgeon to plant boobs on her that were made for a woman the size of GODZILLA!

Don't get me WRONG, I have nice "girls" on board. I have what I have been told "Really nice boobs" and they are in less is more category, but firm and perky even at 53, as I did not care to breast feed and I do work out the base chest muscles so as to KEEP them that way and have always worn good support. It takes some thinking and work to stay perky , just like I want all my parts, not just for looks and clothes fitting well, but for health, too.

My dh says mine are MUCH more appealing - the texture, firmness, shape, nipple color and size factors are what he points out that make breasts truly attractive sexuall, and says "REAL girls these days are a true turn on" rather than large 'honking headlights" (dh has such a WAY with words...kinda like dcrim..) and looking as if a large melon fruit is glued to the chest!

Modesty, discretion, moderation (aka classy) are so MUCH more attractive than plunging necklines with sports cars flashing and announcing to the whole WORD you are superficial and insecure about what God gave you and NEED boobs to make you a more attractive person!

Or worse, you are in the "meat market" for a man and don't care the man you are attracting is just as superficial and shallow as you...appear to be.

Classy takes thought, sports cars are just that for sport. And major surgery for sport is no reason to risk your life without good cause.

Sorry if I've offended some on here. I know there are times when a boob job is NEEDED, for flat chest, breast reconstruction due to cancer, or a boob lift and "remod" is due, but NATURAL should be the goal, not "IT's SHOWTIME GIRLS"