She definitely has a challenge on being punctual. Sometimes people get into relationships even though they feel it's not for them, and they are not feeling it, because they need to be distracted from the issues/troubles that they are facing/feeling. You need to figure out what you can do for yourself to help yourself heal from the divorce. It is not easy to be on your own especially being in a relationship for quite a long time, however if we allow ourselves time to heal, and spend some time enjoying begin single, and then perhaps return back to dating the experience can be five stars from the start. No matter how nice the person is, if the person is late on the first date I take that it's not as important to them as it is for me. Good for you for asking her why she wasn’t asking you any questions. It shows your cutting right to the chase so you both don’t waste each other’s time.
Hope this helps,
Or it shows that he's being pushy.
I agree with Thoreau, this is pretty aggressive stance when in the mood of trying to know someone, and putting your best foot forward. I agree, being late for dates isn't cool, but she may have spent extra time just trying to look nice for you. Each times she's been what you would are suggesting is "considerably" late... she's let you know. I just don't know if that, coupled with her asking about you ( despite me being very satisfied with her response) is grounds to question your future with her.
When i was GF hunting, i tried to weigh the entire package. The 2 largest were to look first for initial physical attraction, i'm assuming you are passed that point. Personality is HUGE to me. Well you confirmed she is "nice and sweet." The other things that you are concerned with... seems like nitpicking. Its like you are looking for something to tear her down over.
Relax, and ask your yourself, does her pro's outweigh her cons. So far, as an outsider, it appears it does. Now ask yourself how she sees you. It is clear how strongly you feel about her tardiness. Do you think that is coming off negatively in your facial stance? In your demeanor? You might not have to worry about future dates.