Re: what to do when you cant stand your husband anymore?
We have been married almost 10 years now. No kids thank goodness. We were both brought up in 2 parent, middle class families. I think he was denied a lot of luxuries in growing up. I never had a want for luxuries. I am not sure if he gains respect or defines himself by these things but maybe so.
His goals that he has expressed to me, are to work to a point where he has enough investments to work less. The problem is its not just him whos working its both of us. Due to the nature of our work, we are both required to work hard. Its not a situation where I can rest. If he wants to work, we both have to. Therein lies the issue. I essentially am busting my butt for his dreams not mine.
I just want to be happy and live life, work and just enjoy life. There is no enjoying going on with someone like him. It is just work work work work work work work. I dont know any woman that can be so one dimensional. Theres so much more to life than working. While I understand the importance of work, for us, we are slaves to it and it defeats the purpose.
What is His Needs Her Needs? I dont think he cares about my needs. He needs me to be on his needs page. Thats how he acts.