Well... my thoughts WERE all over the place =/
It's a nasty habit yes. The reason is due to the times when I have so many questions; one for men, one for women, one for christians, one folks who have experience in infidelity; all at the same time! And I needed the answers ASAP before the next confrontation with my wife for example.
As for the EA, I still don't get why people want to flame me and even my wife over something that happened like 8 years ago. I share things that I'm not proud of in this forum especially when trying to relate to people's problems and to let them know that they are not alone. Sometimes I end up going into threads filled with flames everywhere and I feel sorry for the OPs really when they are just looking for help not to be judged.
As for that scenario in particular I was young and stupid as I mentioned, had no idea how to handle the situation. Eventually thanks to my wife/friend at the time I managed to break free without her causing any damage to anyone - and if you knew the extent of the dangers of breaking up with her, you would understand.
Taking the p-ss out of each other during our good times is our dynamic and it's actually one of the good things about us because we can have alot of fun together without taking everything so seriously. During bad times sure, it's not on, but just because I mention that we prod each other, doesn't mean we do it 24/7. You can't just take one thing and think it applies to our entire marriage.
One day you love your wife completely
Which I have expressed for 2 years on this forum.
then the next week you want to go get laid by someone else and forget about your past marriage
And that was after D-day, and only ONCE did I even have those thoughts of getting laid and forgeting about my marriage. I was hurt, angry, disappointed, and my thoughts were flying everywhere. I wrote them all down on this forum, didn't delete them no matter how dark they were. They were NOT my end decisions.
How can you possibly take one thing, which happened during D-DAY, and say that that's what I've been doing throughout my marriage?
and the next week you are wondering if you can work it out...
Of course, emotions fluctuate up and down, and now we're more stable, of course that's going to happen. I simply did not expect to be judged (for just my thoughts even) on a marriage forum where folks come here with many disturbing stories some of which are much more serious and toxic than my own.