06-28-2009, 12:34 PM
Join Date: May 2009
| | Re: How to move on and stop loving my husband
Originally Posted by Xia
I've been married for 11 years and we have two boys ages 7 and 10. My husband works out of town a lot and sometimes does not contact me for days. It hurts me that he doesn't call and I feel neglected, unwanted and lonely. I've asked if there is someone else but he has there is no one. I guess I just don't trust him. By the way, I tried to contact him without luck, the last time I heard from him was three days ago. He treats me well when he is in town, he never complains and still says he loves me eventhough I nag him. Don't get me wrong, he is no Mr Perfect Husband either. We are starting to see a counsellor so maybe we can salvage this marriage. I wish that I have no feelings for him anymore. I want to be able to move on and no longer love him. That way, whatever he is doing I wouldn't care anymore. I can't move forward if I still have feelings for him for him. Any suggestions on how to get over him?
Am I approaching this the wrong way? Thanks for reading.
Your lucky he is willing to go to counseling with you ! some men won't ! so that is a good sign he also wants to improve and work on the marriage........... BUT
it does not sound like you do... !!!
If you want to get over him and not care, then you should seperate and get on with your life, seperate from him. That will have a price so your going to have to decide and weigh the situations carefully as which is best for you.. to work on the marriage or seperate and start a new life.