Hey Wornthin - I appreciate the post! I cut out a bunch of it to a few points. YES!!!! I am happy around nearly anyone but her for whatever reason. It has been this way for years but I have always stuck by for the kids. Even after the trust issues I thought I could endure for the kids. Now that they kids are growing and mostly independent I have nothing.
Unfort, I do not have tons of friends. I moved to a different part of the state by her family and mostly just hung out with my kids so I really don't have a bunch of people to turn to. My family (dad, mom, 1 sister & 2 half brothers)is extremely small so that is limited as well. none live anywhere near me...
I think I always "got by" in the past with the kids as my buffer to happiness....now that they are doing their thing I find myself hating time around the house.
at this point, she is trying to make it work but it is not helping me.... we grew apart many many years ago and there is really nothing to bring it back. I regret my panic decision to try.
I am should be down to under 3 months until a Townhouse I own (with a huge mortgage) becomes vacant. It is only 1/2 a mile from the house, but in a different neighborhood... i think I need to LIVE and roll the dice and see what happens....
Originally Posted by Wornthin
Two elements of your story resonate in me…that you are happy with your friends and others (or for that matter just about anyone else) - and that you are not happy around your wife. In this way we seem almost exactly
the same in situation. The question is – is the picture that I paint of myself – for you?
what is your plan? how old are your kids? I had my neices over (her sister and kids) the other night and really enjoyed playing with them (they are 4&5 years old).... i miss that... that is the kind of stuff that made me stay in my marriage.