eli8158

my husband has forced me into a situation where he has me doing his online schoolwork for him. I know it is cheating but he makes my life a living hell if I don't do it for him. I told him many times I refused to do it but he keeps putting me in the situation to do it. He expects me to do it for him like it is part of my wifely duties or something. He knows I am mad but then acts like he doesn't understand why I am in a bad mood all the time. Then he gets mad I don't treat him nicely. This takes up what little free time I have when i get home and he could care less. I have many other issues with this man and would leave him in a second if our house wouldn't bankrupt me. Any thoughts?

sisters359

That is cheating and I couldn't be with someone like that. I'd take 7 years of bankruptcy over a lifetime with a morally bankrupt man. Just my 2 cents.

FYI, he cannot "make" you do it. Even if he puts your hands on the keyboard. Your thoughts are your own. He is intimidating you and you are choosing to placate him rather than stand up to him. Next time, walk away--literally. Leave the house if you must. Don't get caught up in this mess he is creating. You will lose your self respect. Take care of you!

827Aug

And what is he doing while you are doing his schoolwork? I wouldn't do it for him. There must be a lot more to this story.

Sandy55

He can't make you do it. Stop it, it is going to get him a college degree when he didn't earn it!

You need to notify the school.

StrongEnough

I would stop doing the homework. No one deserves a degree in which they did not earn themselves.

Or you could screw up the homework really badly and make him fail a class. Then he might reconsider wanting you to do it!

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I like that idea. It's wicked!

Sandy55

Agree with CG!
OH, YES! PERFECT!! Become perfectly dumb!

voivod

just go there and "out" him

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wonder

the only problem w/ screwing up the homework so he'll fail the class is if he becomes serious again about school, he'll have to pay a bit of money (mine is $400 a course) to take the class again.

you really do need to stop doing his work. tell him to man up and do it yourself. he'll never learn otherwise.

Country Girl

I'm sorry but that would be PRICELESS!

Besides I read one of her other post--he deserves that and MORE. That is letting him off easy.

recent_cloud

i'm bothered by the word 'forced'

this issue is just one sympton of a much larger problem and you know what the problem is, or problems are.

feel free to share; maybe someone here can move you forward because you deserve to come home to a peaceful house.

Sandy55

preso

Can you contact the online school and tel them your husband does not want to complete the course but you will and have the degree in your name?

TabbyCat

Throw the computer out and tell him he'd better get his ass down to the library to do his homework. Then be cheerful, let it go, and focus on other things that make your lives better.

If you're going to do his homework, why don't you go to school? Then you'll be doing homework that YOU will be rewarded for.

Does he realize this shows his true character? That might be something for you to think about.