Fiance making me choose between him or my job!?
My fiance and I have very recently got engaged after dating for 2yrs, He travels the US & Europe alot for his job, which at first wasn't a problem for me. Sometimes we wouldn't see each other for a month at a time. If we did have time together when he wasn't touring & i had to go to work he would get aggravated because he wants alone time together, He always begged me to quit my job and be with him full time as he can provide for us both. Im a professional Ballet dancer but i'm a GoGo Dancer on the side for extra money & I love my job, I've been dancing since i was 2. My fiance was always very vocal on how much he doesn't like that i GoGo dance but supported me anyway but constantly tells me how much he hates knowing that men watch me etc. We are happy together and i love him so much but we seem to argue alot about this which ruins the minimum time we have together.
We had an agreement when we started dating that he would never come by my job when im working because he said he couldn't deal with it but last week the night before we was due back on the road and without telling me first, he came by my job, This was the 1st time he'd seen me perform and when i went to him he was so angry with me asking why i enjoy the attention of other -(in his words) perverts getting a 'hard on'- it got very heated and he yelled that my job is the reason we cant be around each other & that he supports me being a dancer just not that kind, He said he wishes he never laid eyes on me, which really hurt me i started to cry, In a rage he punched the wall beside me which scared me but he said that he was sorry and that he crossed the line he just can't deal with it and that i have to figure out what i want more, The job or him and then walked out. He is coming home tomorrow and im strongly thinking about quiting my job but my friend thinks he is manipulating me and is being too possessive. I understand were he is coming from but i honestly do love my job, its a fun outlet for me and i feel torn, Should i stand my ground with my job or am i letting it get in the way of what could be something great? Advice please?