Re: Husband having a midlife crisis
Well H has made a choice to stay / get back with OW even though my daughter begged him not to. I am pleased to say I have finally got angry and feel much better for it. The OW is single, early thirties (compared to his 46!!), smoker (he hates smoking), has an eating disorder, insecurities, bright orange tan, and a 7 year old child. It all helps to lift my self esteem, really is that all he can get?
The OW made contact with my daughter in the early stages of the affair to talk about a computer system she wanted to use at work. (they are in the same industry). She proceeded to feed her false information about a close friend which made my daughter question her friendship. She also spent some time gossiping about the affairs going on at the moment. My husband believes that the OW was forced to meet with our daughter by a mutual friend even though there are emails to prove otherwise.
They say that the H has to reach rock bottom before they can get back up. Well he is truly on his way.
It would take an awful lot to fix our marriage after this and to be quite honest I don't think my H would ever have it in him to fight to come back.
So here is to keeping angry and surviving another day. I have to protect my self and my children and a pray that I am able to stay as strong as I feel today in order to do that.
My thoughts are with anyone else out there who is going through this, nothing can prepare you for the huge amount of hurt the MLC'ERS inflict on those they used to love so dearly. I don't know where my story will go from here but I will keep you posted. Thank you again for every comment made, it realy truly helps to read them.