Re: Wife hates my mom with a passion
This is just conjecture on my part, but I don't think it's just that incident that erupted years ago that's the main issue. I think it's probably an overall feeling that no one is on your wife's side and that she's always expected to "get over it" and "move on". It seems to me that typically the people that suggest that ("let's just move on and get past that") are often the ones that are causing most of the damage.
You talk about this as if it all goes back to 14 years ago......but, you already mentioned a recent encroachement (your mom coming to your home, and your wife being judged for leaving). If there's been pressure for fourteen years that your wife, "just get over the past and move on"......while she is being disrespected (in the present).........that doesn't give a person much security that the future would be any different than the past ever was. To me......it seems that the fourteen year period has only given your wife *more* reason to believe that things aren't going to improve unless someone (hopefully you, OP) stands up for her and understands her perspective.
Last edited by mkgal1; 01-22-2013 at 02:48 PM.