My and I swapped with another couple.

tommy.shann · 07-14-2009, 12:37 PM

Most stories you here about couple swapping are negative with the marriage ending poorly. I don't want to jump the gun, but I think it is working out well for us!

We went into it the totally wrong way, didn't discuss it or anything.... we got drunk with our friends and the topic came up...to my surprise my wife was way in favor of it...and when she found out that our friends have done it before, she made a pass a the husband. One thing led to another and we wound up having sex with each of them.

The next morning I wasn't sure what to expect. My wife had no regrets at all. Since then we have been having great sex ourselves...and my wife has been having sex regularly with this man. She is a much happier woman than she previously was.

preso · 07-14-2009, 01:44 PM

Good for you.

Hope she doesn't decide she likes him better and leaves you

GPR · 07-14-2009, 01:46 PM

Out of curiosity, how long ago was this? And have you been having sex with other people as well in the meantime?

tommy.shann · 07-14-2009, 02:05 PM

This happened about 3 weeks ago. Up until then we had not been having sex with other people. I only has sex with the friend's wife the night it happened. My wife has had sex with the man about 8 times.

preso · 07-14-2009, 02:11 PM

I know a couple wh got into swapping, his wife decided she liked women better and divorced him.

Blonddeee · 07-14-2009, 02:22 PM

So is his wife ok with your wife sleeping with her husband that many times in a less then a month?? Is there a reason she gets to do it 8 times so far and you've only done it the once? That wouldn't work for me, but I guess if it works for your relationship... then to each thier own

tommy.shann · 07-14-2009, 02:32 PM

Preso - Why are you so negative?

GPR · 07-14-2009, 02:40 PM

I've never done this, but I always thought that part of the allure to this was the mutual activity. Doing things together at the same time. The first time was "swapping", after that when it's just her, that's just casual sex with another man.

How many times have you had sex with her over that same period? And as was said, what does his wife think about this?

ADD:

Also, I read your other posts. Does you wife still nag you about your house, parents, van, etc???

Dark Angel · 07-14-2009, 02:43 PM

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Originally Posted by tommy.shann

Preso - Why are you so negative?

Perhaps because shes worried this will happen to you.

If you REALLY are fine with things, then I dont believe you would be here.

Does it make you a little nervous that your wife is enjoying sex with him so much? Perhaps more than with you?

mommyto3boys · 07-14-2009, 02:55 PM

I knew a couple who started swapping and they were thrilled about it at first (they asked us to swap too). Eventually the wife found out that her husband was having sex with the other woman (without telling him about it) and ultimately it destroyed their marriage. Apparently there are 'rules' about swapping, ie. as long as everyone knows what's going on, it's okay, but not when they are sneaking around behind each others back. But, as far as I'm concerned, once you've opened "Pandora's box", there's no going back and no knowing what might happen.

In my opinion, women have a hard time separating sex from emotional attachment and you may lose her in the long run.

Amplexor · 07-14-2009, 02:57 PM

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Originally Posted by tommy.shann

This happened about 3 weeks ago. Up until then we had not been having sex with other people. I only has sex with the friend's wife the night it happened. My wife has had sex with the man about 8 times.

Hmmm! Yet back in May you said she got drunk and had sex with a stranger.

My wife mad at me after 3sum with another man.

I smell a troll.

tommy.shann · 07-14-2009, 03:14 PM

dark angel - if she was worried this will happen to me i think more than one negative sentence would be helpful.

I am writing here to inspire anyone who has htought about this relationship, and because i have written here in the past about other issues.

My marriage is better now than it was..she nags less.

We have been having more sex then ever. i am sure it won't last but we are going at it almost every day.

voivod · 07-14-2009, 09:37 PM

preso made a statement of hope towards the op and a statement of fact regarding an acquaintances experience. how is that being negative?

using similar logic, one could call the op a "troll" (term i just learned! so discriptive!)

Blonddeee · 07-14-2009, 09:45 PM

recent_cloud · 07-14-2009, 10:38 PM

you aspire to be a cuckold and you've succeeded, congratulations, what the h+ll is that for a troll's posting.

used to be trolls accused others of being cuckolds to get a rise out of a thread.

my, how times have changed.

you're reduced to playing the pathetic role.