Just Friends - No Benefits
Stumbled upon this forum and thought maybe I receive some inputs.
There is this guy I have grown very close to as friends over the last 6 years. He is married and has children. I have never considered him as a potential mate, even if he was single, as I don't feel physically attracted to him. Nevertheless, he developed a very strong infatuation with me and actively pursued a relationship. I have made clear to him countless times that I do not feel for him that way, but just love him as a friend and am thankful for the numerous occasions he had been there for me. I always encourage him to work on his marriage as he and his wife have been drifting apart- his crush on me I guess contributing to it. Lately he told me he does not want sex with her because all in his mind there is the image of me. We had this discussion a hundred times, and each time I break it down to him again, reminding him I do not feel this way but he gets upset and withdraws. Then we talk again, and after a while the sex theme comes again, in a way or another. It really bugs me and I don't know how to make him see all I want is his friendship and it will never change. I have never led him on and gave him false hopes but he just can't get it. Him not being intimate with his wife nd dreaming to have more with me, donno what else to do, since all talking is for nothing. I don't even consider giving him up as a friend, as we know eachother long time and he's such a good person. I just want him to accept us as friends, with no benefits. Btw, I am not married. I recently started a relationship.