Hey Guys,
Been married for almost ten years now but I just got my wife, "I love you but don't love you" speech. She has even said that she no longer cares whether she pleases me or not.
She drinks way too much and has emotional/depression problems yet won't do a single thing about either issue. Sex is non-existent with just a few little pecks here and there. She is a party girl and likes to go out with her friends a lot, both male and female. A few months ago the children were staying with friends so we were alone yet she made plans to go to a strip club with a few male friends. She understands that this behavior upsets me and she has seemed more willing to invite me along to go out more recently but I still feel miserable in this marriage. I feel like I'm the invisible man around her and the ONLY time she shows even a little bit of affection is when she has had a few drinks. We DO NOT fight and generally get along fine but it's just not cutting it for me any longer but I'm also afraid to leave her and be alone.
Here's my problem: we've talked about splitting up but because of our debt, the economy, etc. we would both be really really broke if we did. Like painfully broke. So we keep this marriage going along and I hope that someday she can have feelings for me like she did earlier in the marriage. But I'm not holding my breath on this one. Advice?
Been married for almost ten years now but I just got my wife, "I love you but don't love you" speech. She has even said that she no longer cares whether she pleases me or not.
She drinks way too much and has emotional/depression problems yet won't do a single thing about either issue. Sex is non-existent with just a few little pecks here and there. She is a party girl and likes to go out with her friends a lot, both male and female. A few months ago the children were staying with friends so we were alone yet she made plans to go to a strip club with a few male friends. She understands that this behavior upsets me and she has seemed more willing to invite me along to go out more recently but I still feel miserable in this marriage. I feel like I'm the invisible man around her and the ONLY time she shows even a little bit of affection is when she has had a few drinks. We DO NOT fight and generally get along fine but it's just not cutting it for me any longer but I'm also afraid to leave her and be alone.
Here's my problem: we've talked about splitting up but because of our debt, the economy, etc. we would both be really really broke if we did. Like painfully broke. So we keep this marriage going along and I hope that someday she can have feelings for me like she did earlier in the marriage. But I'm not holding my breath on this one. Advice?