I'm starting to hate my husband, please help!!
We met thru facebook, dated and got married. He has an 8 yrs old daughter and I have a 7 yrs old son. We've been married a year now.
The problem started out with him telling me that a wife comes and go but his daughter stays. Meaning I'm not as important as his daughter. To me, once married a husband and a wife "two become one", he supposed to be someone I trust my life with, someone I grow old with, over all the most important person in my life. Then kids that we both love and adore.
He barely touch me, whenever I touch him he either pushed me away or complained that he has to work the next day. He works from 7am-3pm. That's not the only obstacle, he allowed his daughter to sleep with us, left my son all alone. Eventually, I learn to suppress my feeling and cried myself to sleep night after night. Not that we've never done it, we did it but it's all about him. When he's got what he wanted, he just turned away and sleep left me all alone. He said he afraid his daughter might hears us. So, I guess we're just not gonna do anything as long as she's here. Yes, maybe he hugs me but how is that gonna help me? He thinks that hugging and cuddling is enough for a married couple.
When I first moved in I noticed his ex-wife pics were all over the house, I felt hurt. Yep, once again everything was for his daughter. I also found the wedding video DVD. At this point, I ask myself "what am I doing here?", "why am I interferring their live?". That's not enough his family started telling me how good his ex-wife was.
More and more, he was also involved texting and phone conversation with other women behind my back. I confronted him and he promised to stop. Nope, he didn't. He was still talking and texting but he deleted the phone numbers and texts when he's done. He would called me on the way home from work and rushed off the phone said he's driving couldn't talk. However, he called that girl and talked till he gets home. He can't call or having text conversation from work, that's what he told me, but he did all that with her. If I didn't check AT&T phone bill, I'll never find out. I was hurt, lost my trust and faith in him. That's when I started to hate him.
No that's not all, my son found a letter written by his daughter saying how much she hated me and my son being here. She said my son and I destroyed her life. I've done nothing but nice and treated her like my own. At this point I lost my closeness with her, I still take care of her needs but I can't be close to her like I used to. I hate how she bosses my son around and being mean to him. As for my husband, he's not very nice to my son but he's not that bad with him either. He's sweet with his daughter but the opposite with my son.
I also caught him messaging with girls on fb using words that only couple would use. And he has to check that girl profile every otherday...he has to know how she's doing. Why? She's not family.
I tried talking to him, but he doesn't like communicating. He promised to change. However, our sex life suck...he cum then he just goes to sleep. Left me all alone...
That's how I come to hating him, not wanting him around...I know all he cares about is his daughter. Help me please!! I feel lonly and all I want is the relationship that a husband and a wife suppose to have. I feel so much pain and anger toward him and his daughter...I just want stab myself. I'm still waiting for all the promises he made me before we got married.