Join Date: Apr 2009
Location: Central Virginia
Re: Obsessed Neighbor
Move. the guy sounds crazy and you and your kids could be at risk. But also, where is your wife in all this? How much is she texting/calling him? Why does she even have the phone? Talk to her--maybe he has her scared to death. I know I would be if someone called/texted me like that.
Talk to the police, too, and start documenting the events with him. You may need a restraining order if you move and he seeks you out. Do NOT play his game, try to expose him at work, etc. You need to take this seriously, regardless of whether or not your wife is willingly or unwillingly involved. She may have been enjoying what she thought was a "harmless" flirtation (although I don't think there is any such thing) and it turned ugly on her, but she couldn't extricate herself. You need to know if he has threatened you and/or the kids to her. He may be controlling her that way. Regardless, you should act FAST to find out what's been going on and, even if your wife stalls, call the cops about the phones and texts. It is way too much, IMHO, for a healthy person to be doing.
Be prepared, though, for whatever your wife says. Remember, your marriage is a separate issue from the safety of you and your kids, and the driving recklessly crap, etc., MUST stop. Deal with the marriage issue later, once you are safely away from him.