iheartmywife

Hi it been a while since ive been on here. Last year I found out my wife had an affair. Things got bad where she didnt want anything to do with me. Eventually it got better. Well somewhat. Ive been on the whole reading books and trying just about everything to make things work. To me it felt like I was fighting for the both of us.

Lately, Ive pulled away a bit. We are in counseling and I have my own private counselor. I have some abandonment issues that stems back from childhood. Ive been working on me and what makes me happy. Theres been times where ive said you know what Ive had enough but I love her too much. So as of a couple of months now Ive been getting the once over. The spanish inquisitions and getting sucked into the unneccesary arguement.

A lil background. While we were dating I cheated. Im not proud of it and I wont make any excuses for it. I was just stupid and didnt realize what I had and couldnt let anyone get close to me. Ive been on the straight and narrow for 5 years now. Loving her when its the hardest. Then she had her affair.

I said in the very begining that it felt like payback. She said that it wasnt. Smh. So on a whole shes very hardened. And we have been doing counseling for (wow didnt realize it was this long) 8 months. And after a big arguement where she goes through my phone - of course not finding anything and my drink splashed in my face we sat in therapy and for the first time in 3 years I saw the woman I fell in love with. Soft and actually defenseless. We were talking about her father and me cheating and she broke out in tears. She has mom and daddy issues. But she wont admit it. For three days after counseling I had girlfriend. That right girlfriend. It felt so right. Then one fight and the walls or jerocoh went right back up.

Now I come home to find that she is hiding a book called Someone to love me. Its a urban christian book. It shocked me that she would actually be reading it. Does anyone know what the book is about or if its any good. I dont really wanna question her because im afraid me doing so might have her stop.

Before I had a hard time believing that she wanted things to work. But lately it seems that she is trying. Our counselor says we argue the same things but just in different ways. But anywho I came on here to ask about the book. Tried googling it but didnt find much about it.

Thanks in advance.

DeniseK

never heard of it... but it sounds like a winner to me. Don't ....like you said....don't question her about it. She will tell you when the time is right. If it's helping her....then who cares what it is about. Right? Sounds like really good news.

Blonddeee

This review was on amazon...

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5.0 out of 5 stars Love Heals All Things, June 13, 2009
By A Philly Fan (Philadelphia) - See all my reviews

This is the second book I've read by this author. I thoroughly enjoyed reading more about the lives of Taylor, Renee and Jerome, and the new character, Joi.

This book shows the complexities of dealing with the after effects of an affair. It seems obvious that Taylor and Jerome have to deal with their actions, but this novel also shows how an affair can bring turmoil into a family, even after years have passed.

This was great read and I am looking forward to the next installment of Renee, Jerome and Taylor.

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