An old friend needs help
Ive got an old/ex friend that needs help and she had no one else to turn to, so she turned to me. Heres the background.
She turns 21 in a few weeks, she has a beautiful 3 year old daughter, and has been married for 3 years. Shes been having some trust issues with her husband (whole diff story). She took her daughter and moved in with some friends, just to take time and sort things out, shes recently moved back in with him, now shes wanting to fly home to see her family, without him, and shes wanting to find herself and see if her marriage is worth saving.
So, today I talked to her, and she said that he's making her sign some papers saying that she promises to come back to Cali. and when she returns and she decides to stay with him, she has to give him all her passwords to myspace, aim, ect and cant no longer code lock her phone. Now to me, this sounds a bit controlling, she wants to leave him, but doesnt want to lose her child and I completely understand that, I told her not to use that as an excuse to stay. The lawyers in Cali have her believeing that if she comes to GA with her daughter, they can have her arrested for kidnapping. Shes afraid that if she files for divorce and stays here, that he will take her daughter away form her. I asked if hes hitting her, and her responce was "he's still breathing" so I take that as a no, but I believe she is terrified of him, but more terrified of losein her little girl.
Is there any advice I can give her? I told her she could post her, but I see she hasnt as of yet, so Im posting for her. I told her she needed to what was best for her and her childs safety, but like any mother, she doesnt want to lose her child. Anything I can tell her to set her mind at ease?