03-26-2013, 06:11 PM
Join Date: Mar 2013
| | Why Is He Moving Closer?
My ex is building a home with his wife about 15 minutes away from where I currently live. He lives now in the city, downtown and I thought he would love it, but I also expected him to move to the high-class suburb he went to school in (but was not raised in because his family was poor). He has achieved the life he wants for himself, and the lifestyle he has always aspired to (one of affluence).
Anyway, while I'm not surprised, I'm not happy. Our breakup was hard on me, and the knowledge of not running into him was great. I often shop and putter around, and have appointments in the town he is moving to BUT I do not want to run into him. I don't know if that will happen, but I hope not. I spent over two years in fear of running into him and his girlfriend, now wife, because I felt so awful that he chose her over me. And although I know I he doesn't care about me or my living near the area he is moving didn't factor into his decision at all, I know he moving nearer and I hate it. I want to ignore it and pretend it doesn't matter, but it does. He chose someone else, and I want to be happy for him - but from DISTANCE. Not up close.
Anyway, has anyone been in this situation? How do you handle it, and move forward? I want to hold my head high, but I can't. He has moved on, and I am still missing him sometimes, and not in a new relationship. I am still getting over how much he hurt me, while he is building a home with his wife. It sucks.