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Old 03-26-2013, 06:11 PM   #1 (permalink)
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My ex is building a home with his wife about 15 minutes away from where I currently live. He lives now in the city, downtown and I thought he would love it, but I also expected him to move to the high-class suburb he went to school in (but was not raised in because his family was poor). He has achieved the life he wants for himself, and the lifestyle he has always aspired to (one of affluence).

Anyway, while I'm not surprised, I'm not happy. Our breakup was hard on me, and the knowledge of not running into him was great. I often shop and putter around, and have appointments in the town he is moving to BUT I do not want to run into him. I don't know if that will happen, but I hope not. I spent over two years in fear of running into him and his girlfriend, now wife, because I felt so awful that he chose her over me. And although I know I he doesn't care about me or my living near the area he is moving didn't factor into his decision at all, I know he moving nearer and I hate it. I want to ignore it and pretend it doesn't matter, but it does. He chose someone else, and I want to be happy for him - but from DISTANCE. Not up close.

Anyway, has anyone been in this situation? How do you handle it, and move forward? I want to hold my head high, but I can't. He has moved on, and I am still missing him sometimes, and not in a new relationship. I am still getting over how much he hurt me, while he is building a home with his wife. It sucks.
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Old 03-26-2013, 06:21 PM   #2 (permalink)
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You might have to move.
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Old 03-26-2013, 06:40 PM   #3 (permalink)
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He's doing this because he has no thought for your feelings.
I know it must be hard for you esp as he is married to the OW but you can't control where he lives and what he does.
You have to live your own life now and really try to move on.
Are you dating? Do you have a decent social life and hobbies?
You need to focus your mind on those things now and not so much on your ex.
It's time to move on honey. I know it's not easy but you have one life, please go out and live it and stop worrying about why he's up to.
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Old 03-26-2013, 08:43 PM   #4 (permalink)
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Your chances of running into them is pretty slim. When I got married, I moved to the small town my husband lived in, which JUST HAPPENED to be the SAME town as my boyfriend from right before him! Weird, eh? I never ran into him. And we only lived like 3 minutes from each other. I dont think you need to freak out about this, really. And I understand how you feel about him and his wife, my ex chose someone over me as well, and I am still trying deal with it.
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Old 03-26-2013, 08:50 PM   #5 (permalink)
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If you cannot bear living close to him, might as well find a new place. You would not want to torture yourself right?
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