Re: How do I get over all the lies?
Hi thank you for the no more mr nice guy, I had it in my home and hadn't read it yet, its helping me a lot. Read most of it today. I am textbook. I find I am now sacrificing my needs for the needs of my pets, the only ones left in my life, and sometimes my roommate. I keep giving her gifts and I spend all day stressing out about if my dogs are getting enough exercise, making them homecooked dog friendly meals, grooming them, shopping for them, etc. I feel sick to my stomach when I leave them alone and they give me that devastating stare and sometimes will cancel the gym just for that reason.
So today after reading a bit, I went to the gym, originally racked with guilt and having a lousy time. Then I got over it and came home in a great mood and was able to take them on a 45 minute walk. If I had stayed home "for them" I would've been depressed and solemn and not taken them on such a long fun walk.
So I am now starting the putting me first....tho its hard not to scoff. Ive recently made purchases for my appearance, trendy sunglasses, fancy hair gel, stuff like that and I find myself feeling like a shallow ******* for doing it.
Like if I put jeans on I think "wow look at high and mighty over here thinks he is too good for his pajama pants. Who is HE tryin to impress??"
and I revert to the book. I got it bad guys
Am I getting myself out there? yes, I am I have a date later this week that seems promising thus far. I also changed my dating profile online to be less about what I have to offer and more about what I want in someone and being direct and honest, and the responses are already way up and the girls who reply dig that I know what I want. I had to fight past the "u stuck up jerk, how dare u have certain standards, no one is going to like you and theyre all going to think youre a total snob" dialogue in my head